I get very anxious around guys…..I feel like rape is a constant threat for me and I have nightmares where I am being raped. I hate that feeling and I”m always scared. I’m terrified around guys all the time. Why do I think this?
Hm...A lot of people feel this way actually after all the stuff that have happened. You might have encountered something that caused you to fear this. Example, a friend got abused sexually or some person you care for betrayed you of something. I might be wrong though.However a lot of people fear rape everywhere, even guys.
It is possible it could have happened. We tend to block out painful memories, but obviously they still affect us on a subconscious level. You could talk to someone about it? Maybe see a therapist, they can often bring up the memories and help you cope with them much better. It could be something much more simple though, so I wouldn't worry too much until you know for sure. It could just be that you're worried of being hurt, whether that's emotionally or physically. You just need to find a guy you trust 100% and feel really comfortable around. You may have a guy friend you've never even considered in that way. Just don't force yourself into something you're not comfortable with.
I'm so uncomfortable around guys...now I can at least be around guys my age [few years ago I didn't] but older men scare the crap out of me. I know nothing will happen but it's always in the back of my mind that something will and it kind of shows because I am quiet, don't talk, and don't make eye contact. For example, I've been living in Taiwan for a month now with a host family and I am so uncomfortable around my host father. I will never understand why. Sorry if this doesn't make sense...this is the first time I am talking about it
Take steps to prepare yourself should any type of attack ever happen. Take some self defense classes and read up on what attackers look for in targets. For example, there was a survey done in prisons by rapists and they said that they look for women who wear their hair up (easy to grab) and wear loose clothing (easy to remove), are distracted by something (cell phone), are in solitude, and avoid women with objects they could defend themselves with (umbrella was mentioned a lot), heels (pointy). Keep pepper spray with you.It's possible something happened to you in your past that is triggering these fears, or it could be all in your head. Either way, learn to defend yourself and you will feel a lot safer (this worked for me.)
I was raped when I was just turned fifteen and sexually abused at an extremely young age. I have post traumatic stress disorder and know exactly what you are talking about, i think its good that you are conscious but dont let that get in the way of any relationship with a man. Trust me, Its gotten in the way of far too many of mine. But i love and trust my boyfriend now and feel completely safe with him. Believe me when I say that when you find a guy you love the fear will go away.You could have been abused, its a possibility. Or, you have just been brought up to feel that way. Or television has had this impact. I dont know. Everyone has different phobias, mines clowns, i dream about them and am very concious of them. Could just be a strong phobia.Try talking to your mother?