I am an adult. My parents just signed their divorce papers on my 25th birthday. They had been married for 27 years. I just found out that my father became involved in some unsavory activities, and I really don’t want to be around him because of that.
I am married, live a few hours away from my mother and other sibling. I work, I don’t have kids. I have my own life and I do my own thing.
Should this divorce make me as upset as it does? I totally understand why my parents are getting divorced, and honestly, I wish my mother had done it sooner. (Really felt like my dad was holding her back emotionally, financially, etc. )
If my dad texts me or even walks in the same room as me, I have an anxiety attack so bad that I have to immediately take some of my anxiety meds that I was already on. I don’t want to cut him off completely, because he is one of my parents, but he really makes me uncomfortable.
My mom relies heavily on me to just listen to her. Anytime she can get me somewhere long enough, she completely unloads and I listen for hours upon hours. This has all left me feeling really depressed, and devastated.
I feel like every family vacation, or Christmas, or event was a lie. My dad wasnt around a lot, but now that I know what I know, things make a lot of sense and really upset me.
Should this bother me so much?? Even as an adult??? Shouldn’t I just be able to “get over it” ???