Is it possible for a man to have daddy issues?

I recently found out that my fiance has the urge every once in awhile to receive oral sex from a man. He doesn’t want to do anything else with them & has only done it a few times. The only reason for it that I can think of is maybe daddy issues. Females that have issues act out sexually with men, could it be possible for a man to do the same?
(he’s never met his dad & hates him because his whole life his dad was less than 30 miles away & never made an attempt to have a relationship with him)
He’s only done it twice since we’ve been together, once a few weeks after we met & then again a few months ago while I was out of town. I don’t want to throw away what we have, but just wondering if anyone out there could give me some advice on how I can help him & our relationship. I feel betrayed but at the same time I hurt for him because there is obviously something going on deep down that he needs help with.

Category: Dating & Relationships asked May 26, 2014

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nicole31

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its very possible for a man to have Daddy issues. A boy in my class was abandoned by his father to a really bad homelife with his mother and as a result, he was really bad about getting into drinking, drugs, sex, etc. Though I'm proud to say he's doing so much better and I'm really happy for him. The best thing you might be able to do is try to talk about it with him and try to get these issues settled before you get married. I dont quite agree with rinseandrep, because there certainly could be deeper issues considering his past. Just try to talk to him and voice your concerns and feelings.

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Lillianna

It is totally possible for a man to have 'daddy issues', but I wouldn't necessarily put it down to that in this case..... it may just be a bit of a kink or he might lean ever so slightly towards bisexuality. It doesn't have to be anything to do with his parents or childhood and it may not be 'acting out'..... I'm not saying it for sure isn't, but I wouldn't say it for sure is, either. I would maybe look at talking to him about it and maybe seeking a professional opinion if you feel its necessary....

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TheQuietTheLost

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Maybe you should just go for the simpler thing, that he is gay, or bi, or a sex addict. And a cheater. You don't need to make excuses for him or feel bad for him, just work on if you want to stay in this relationship or not, if things keep going like this.

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rinseandrep

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everybody has a kink of some sort his just comes from a deeper place

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Rogue

I think my biggest concern is his lack of honestly and fidelity. Whatever his deeper issues are (and very well he could have some, as most humans do), a person in a relationship should not be having sexual experiences with other people (unless you have prior approval, because that's something both people are interested in, but that's not your situation).Anyways, I'd recommend seeing a couples counselor to help you work these things out. There are plenty of counselors who do free or sliding scale fees. Just don't be afraid to speak your mind and stand up for what makes you happy. You deserve a healthy relationship, whether it's this one or not.

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