Is it okay to be cuddly with a friend when you’re in a relationship?

I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months, and we are happy with each other, and trust each other, and have a really open and honest relationship. We have a mutual friend, who is rather affectionate, but isn’t close to many people to let that side out. I am an affectionate person, however none of my friends are, so they don’t see that side of me except from with my boyfriend. Now, when me and our mutual friend are together, we’re really cuddly with each other, however we’ve both received comments about this being wrong, and it needing to stop. My boyfriend understands there’s nothing in it, and he trusts us both, but now me and our mutual friend are unsure. What are your thoughts on this?

(Side note – we both have depression, and feel better from affection, so it also works well as a helper)

Category: Dating & Relationships asked October 3, 2014

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USSEntercries

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I don't mean to disappoint, but if you think there's starting to be some meaning in it, then you need to resolve the problem quickly. I know it makes you feel better, but just think of how your boyfriend will feel if he walks in on a cuddling session that has gone a little too far. Think of it this way: would you like it if you knew he was cuddling girls for long periods of time? I think that you should choose soon, before somebody gets hurt. If everybody seems fine with it, by all means, keep doing what you're doing, but once something happens, a kiss that "meant nothing," I think you should start to prepare yourself for what lies ahead.

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Bluie

There's only three people whose opinion matters here. Yours, your boyfriend's and your friend's. You all seem like you're clear on where things are and OK with it, so everyone else on the planet can just shut their mouths. ;)
(I've got a number of friends like this. It's nice.)

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Mechalith

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