Is it normal to feel like this..?

I’m insanely jealous and I hate to admit that to myself but one of my best friends got an apartment with one of her friends that she met at work, her new job over the summer and they just recently moved in together. Were growing apart and we never text or talk like we use to. She never tries to hang out with me or texts me and when I text her she never replies back to me. At the beginning of the summer we were talking about getting one together once I got a job but due to lack of transportation I wasnt able to (long story) and now I’m jealous. Not just of that but because I’ve always been secretly jealous of her. She was always comparing herself to me, weight, grades, her success in her relationships. She has always made comments about my weight, about my familys lack of money, how shes in college and how I dont have a life, just everything I know I’m getting off topic but can someone help me get over this or just give me some advice. I know I sound like a horrible person, dont get me wrong I love her but I dont know what to do. This normal to be jealous of a close friend

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secretly me

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First thing's first, Being jealous of someone doesn't make you a bad person. It makes you human. Now about the situation, After a while people move on up and away from their friends. After a while everyone has to leave and do what they have to. For example your friend moving away and such. I understand being jealous but try not to compare yourself to others. Losing a friend may be tough but is she Really worth it if she looks down on you?. If everything continues downhill maybe find more relating friends. No one should ever poke fun at your weight or make you feel inferior. I hope this helped a bit ^_^;.

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SilenceKills

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I don't know if I'd agree with rinseandrep. Being jealous of others is normal, and just bringing yourself up to their level sometimes isn't enough to fix it. Then there's someone doing a little better still, another person to be jealous of. It's this jealousy that needs to be addressed most importantly. I think that this is coming because you haven't truly accepted yourself, and honestly her comments putting you down seem rather toxic.

Obviously, if you aren't happy with where you are, it's time to do your best to change it. But like I said, you still may get jealous of others if you don't accept yourself with confidence. No one is perfectly confident, which is why jealousy is pretty normal.

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You say you are jealous of her because, among other things, you don't have a life. I guess the solution is, get one. From what I understand this person isn't even in your daily life, it's somebody you choose to think about with anger/jealousy/envy to evade your present. I think it's not that terrible to daydream like this, expressing in a way your inner turmoil, as long as you are aware of what you are doing. It's like smoking, it's disgusting, you hate it and yourself as you do it, kills you in the long term, but for now helps the smoker evade his problems. So, know that to get out of it, you have to get active. Only then you will think about your present life, and not what someone somewhere is doing.

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