Is it normal that my boyfriend was liking a bunch of pictures of females on facebook?

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he’s completely aware that i an access his account and i just saw on his activity log on facebook that he’s likin a lot of female pictures mostly girls with tattoos and posing half-naked and ****. i know i shouldn’t be jealous but was that normal? what is he thinking? and i also found on his phone one picture of a celebrity that is posing wearin a swimsuit. should i get mad or act like it’s not botherin me but it’s actually killin me inside.

Category: Tags: asked March 7, 2014

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He's thinking 'Wow, that's beautiful'. Much as you might see a picture of mountains and lakes and think, 'Amazing'. Whether you like it or not, your boyfriend will always have a place in his mind where he is king of a bouncy castle made of boobs. I guess if it's making you look bad then you could remind him that your friends check his page and it reflects badly on your relationship, but my guess is he'll just resent being told what to do. It's certainly not uncommon for guys to do this, and I don't think it has anything to do with his feelings for you. It's a good sign he finds you physically attractive.
But yes, if it's eating you up then tell him it makes you feel jealous and unappreciated; he might hide it better.
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It would be unhealthy for him as an individual if he did NOT have other interests. It is healthy to find attractive people attractive. You're not the only female on the face of the planet, and there is no such thing as the "most beautiful" person on the planet because beauty is subjective.

To expect your boyfriend to not look at other attractive women would be selfish and unrealistic. His libido isn't going to magically shut off just because he is in a relationship, that isn't going to change. But what can change is you can afford him some more privacy.

If what he does is not affecting your relationship, then by definition it isn't harmful, but if you go snooping around through his personals, then you'd best be prepared to find personal things. He's a normal young adult with a healthy sex drive, but he's not cheating on you; that means he's a healthy and loyal young man.

There is nothing wrong with acknowledging the attractiveness of other human beings even if you're in a relationship. It is psychologically unhealthy to lie to yourself that someone else is attractive because you think that if you admit they look good that it'll tempt you to cheat; that's just flawed thinking, and it is a sign of a lack of trust.

Trust is one of those things that either is or is not; if you go through his things, you don't trust him, and if you trust him, then you'd feel no need to go through his things.

But to answer your question directly; yes, it is perfectly normal for a healthy person to want to look at other healthy people.
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Maybe you should be straight up with him. No need to be mad, but it's something that's hurting you so don't act like it doesn't. Try talk about it with him without screaming his face off and being accusive. He'll understand, trust me.
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I don't find this offending in any way due lot of reasons which people have listed already. But if that behavior is killing you, you should let him know how you feel. Important thing to remember this is entirely up to him if he is willing to "tone it" down so you don't feel jealous so much. Basically, lot of guys would find that unreasonable request, so don't be surprised about his reaction.