Is a Vasectomy a game changer?

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I guess it’s more of a question asking of people’s opinions than general fact. Would a relationship be altered or affected if the man in it has had a Vasectomy and can’t father children? Would the woman still be attracted to him and want to further a relationship if she finds out he’s infertile?

Category: asked September 4, 2014

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It would depend on why the vasectomy was done. Was it done to prevent having children?
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It is most definitely a game changer. A lot of people go into relationships with the mindset that "we're gonna get married or break up eventually" instead of just focusing on your time spent together. It's not necessarily a bad thing but it does mean that some people prioritize their future. If they want to have kids, it may affect their decision to be with a person with a vasectomy in the long-term. A vasectomy can also be on your side though if you end up with someone who doesn't want kids (never have to worry about birth control- that would be heaven). Everyone is going to feel differently about it because everyone wants different things and to different degrees at that. A vasectomy is a huge decision so be sure to do it for the right reasons- your own reasons (or medical ones also). You do what's best for you. x I hope this helps.
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I think it would only be a deal breaker if your partner wanted kids. The other issue is that sometimes people start out not wanting kids and then change their mind. There isn't a single solves all answer to this as each person will take it differently. You could consider this as well to get a different perspective:

Would I be less attracted to a female that couldn't bare children?

You can consider that question in the context of "I do want children," and "I do not want children." As your opinion may vary depending on if you want children or not.

I am dead set against the idea of bringing children of my own into the world. I tried to get a vasectomy years ago and they wouldn't because of my age. Since then I've had it done and haven't looked back. It is a personal choice... my life my decision. My sister is the same way she will not have kids. Difference is that I love kids and she doesn't. I enjoy my brothers kids and he openly shares them with me so I get the joy of having kids without the responsibility... I know cheat codes eh?

Any time I had gotten into a serious relationship I had established rules and one of them being that I will not bring a child into this world. I am not against adopting. That seemed to be okay with anyone I've ever dated and I've only ever dated one woman who already had children.

So maybe that helps to answer your question.
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If it can be reversed within the next 10 years, it probably won't be the ultimate deal-breaker, but good thinking about informing your partners about it so that they know, and in the rare case they were looking for children ASAP, they could evaluate better your future together.
I thought you were talking about how would it affect unprotected sex, that should be postponed anyway to after both of you pass a STD test, to be safe.