I’m straight, but..

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Well I know for a fact that I like boys not girls. I’m not just “in the closet” or anything. But me and on of my friends are really close and she’s gay. We tell each other that we love each other but I look at her like she’s my little sister. People think we like each other but I’m not gay. I don’t have any feelings for her in that way. She used to like me but I’m pretty sure she doesn’t anymore and if she does she’s hiding it from me. I don’t know what to do.. I don’t want people to go around thinking I’m gay when I’m not. I mean I love gay people to death but I’m not one and I don’t want people thinking I am. I can’t just drop her because she’s an amazing friend and she’s been there for me when no one else has. Like I said she’s like a little sister. Please help.

Tags: asked January 24, 2014

6 Answers

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Don't drop her. Who cares what people think, you keep being who you are. You may want to talk to your friend since you are close. Make sure you aren't hurting her feelings in anyway. But there is nothing wrong with being close with her as friends, even when others think your gay.
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You shouldn't stop being someone's friend because you're afraid of what other people are thinking. What if the positions were reversed and she was thinking about dropping you as a friend for the same reasons? Especially with how close you two are? You don't need to care what other people think. If they're wrong, they're wrong. You can't make them stop thinking anything so don't worry about it. She's your friend and you should care more about that than whatever people are thinking about you. People who judge so quickly shouldn't be listened to, anyway. If someone says your gay just say "I'm not" and walk away. Don't make a big deal out of it, don't explain anything. You don't owe anyone an explanation. If you stop caring, so will they. If people thought I was gay because my best friend was a lesbian, I'd just let them think that.
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People thought I was bi and dating my best friend because shes bi. and Im still very close with her. We just said fuck you all and told them Im not bi. Dont drop her. You'll regret it.
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You should really just work on not caring what people say. Remember, people will always have something to say about you. Good or bad.. If she has been such a good friend to you than honestly it shouldn't matter what anyone thinks because a good friendship should mean more.
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The only way to stop others of thinking you're lesbian is to stop being her friend, but you guys are so close I'm sure you wouldn't want that to happen. So stop caring what others think, you are you, thats the best thing a person can do, be themselves. :) So be proud. And if you're really really REALLY want them to stop thinking your lesbian, you can get a boyfriend.
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Don't let the fact what other people might think keep you from having a good friend, and as you said; you love her. There are many different kinds of love, and really it's not that uncommon for friends to say that to each other. As long as you and your friend are on the same page, nothing else should really matter. There's nothing wrong with being really close with your friends.You know you're straight, and so does your friend. Nobody else should really matter. And if you think that others might think that you're gay for being friends with someone who is... well then screw them. I think what you need is to work on your own confidence, don't let ignorant people get to you, make you something you're not. And if it bothers you that much tell them, that you guys are like sisters. It's not fair to her to just "drop" her, she hasn't done anything wrong.Also, one way to show them for sure that you aren't gay is to get a boyfriend. Or kiss a boy at least.