I’m so embarrased of my body I can’t lose my virginity.

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So basically when i was younger i was bullied for having really small breasts and since then they haven’t grown at all. I can promise they aren’t even small, they are inexistent. So at that point i started wearing bras that made them look bigger to make the bullying stop. The problem is i’m gonna turn 17 really soon and all my friends are getting boyfriends and losing their virginities but i’m stuck. I’m so afraid of a boy discovering my inexistent boobs or my fake bra i haven’t ever gone further than making out. And it’s not because i don’t want to, i’m open minded to do stuff but i can’t even go over the first base because i’m too embarrased. So i don’t know what to do and i can’t stop thinking about it, getting naked in front of someone terrifies me and i don’t think anyone will ever like me looking like this. I can’t even get it because i’m not skinny at all, with this body type that’s even a bit fatty i should have breasts so that’s the worst. I’m just desperate. Help?

Category: Tags: asked August 17, 2014

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I am 27 years old and my girlfriend is 31. She literally has no breasts. I still think she's beautiful. Lose the bad friends and get people who truly support you. Friends don't make you feel bad.

Tell yourself this a thousand times a day if you have to: "It is okay to love myself.".
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What you do with your virginity is up to you. The thing to remember is you're beautiful beyond all measure. Your body is yours. Size of your breasts doesn't matter because there are men and boys of all types. Some not into large breasts and some into small. So you'll never have to worry about not finding anyone because the person you fall for will love and find beauty in just the way you are. You have to look in the mirror and be happy with who you are. If you don't like something then you can work on in getting in shape. I been told by my friend Ophelia that drinking water helps breast grow over time. Maybe you can look up natural things you can do to help yourself. If you really want something then you will find a way. But realize you're beautiful no matter what. Find the beauty in your eyes, in your heart, and who you are. Be truthful to yourself and find the courage in your heart that screams out "this is me. And I love who I am" I was overweight. I had to realize that I have to accept the truth about my weight. This is me and that I am a human being. I looked at myself in the mirror and told myself that I am handsome. I want to lose weight not because I want to look sexy for someone, but I want to look in the mirror and say "Damn! You're hot" to myself. Haha, but really though I told my friend Ophelia who was scared and embarrassed of her body just to look in the mirror naked and remind herself that she's beautiful and that what she was looking at was her body and it's beautiful. She learned to love her body and changed whatever she was ashamed of. Now she's was able to freely express herself with her boyfriend of 5 years. When you want something you will find a way, but love for yourself will carry you pass your fears of your body. By giving yourself love, you will find that same love and passion with the person you're going to be with in your intimate moment.
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Hi there. If you're looking just to lose your virginity, then it will be hard for you, but if you want a boyfriend, a relationship, and then more, you will be so okay, you will wonder why you were ever worried. When a boy falls in love with you, he will learn to love YOU for what you HAVE and what you don't. What turns some guys on is a turn off for others! Are you looking for a boyfriend based on the size of his ding-dong? Be confident, and that's the first thing he'll notice! That, or your beautiful smile, eyes, or anything else you may be looking over! Learn to love yourself. Be you, and when a guy loves you and your small boobs and all, you'll know he's a good one! I hope you'll start to feel better about your body. No. I hope you learn to love your body! Don't let past bullies keep pulling you down! All the best etc.
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There's nothing wrong with your body. If you're going to get intimate with the right guy for you, he will love your body because he loves YOU. And here's some guy advice for you. Any experienced man knows that its not the SIZE of a woman that counts, It's the Overall SHAPE.
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I used to feel like that as well like my friend would always make fun of me about the fact that I had no boobs and I laughed along because it was kind of funny because it was so true but I was still really self concious about the non existance of them and how a guy would be extremely turned off by how small they are but what I am going to say is that you will find someone who loves you for your entirity and thinks you are perfect the way you are and you will feel so comfortable around them that your insecurities just kind of dissapear because you are so involved in the moment with them that nothing else matters. And I know it sounds super corny but it is completely true because it happened to me I got my self this amazing boyfriend who I absolutely love and he loves me and i was so insecure about the size of my breasts except when we first had sex and when I first revealed my boobs to him I didnt even feel ashamed because I was so in love with him at that moment that nothing mattered and I trusted him respect me for however I look and he actually now says that he loves my boobs and thinks they are the perfect size and not too big and not too small because he doesnt actually really like boobs that are too big they are a bit weird and this was completely out of the blue so yeah I hope this makes you feel better about yourself and if you ever need anyone to talk about things further you can just message me :)
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the right person to loose your virginity to will make you love yourself for who you are, and because he should love you too, your image shouldnt be a concern for either of you when it comes too sex, but he should just be enjoy your company and beauty anyway.p.s. losing your virginity is not a chore, its not something you have to do because everyone else is, do it when your 110% certain, to avoid regret after x