I’m so confused if I’m genderfluid or not

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So lately I’ve been wearing these guy sweats that are so comfortable, and I realized I kinda like dressing kinda male-ish, but I also like to dress very girly… I feel like maybe I’m genderfluid (I’m bisexual/pansexual as is) (I put both bc I’m not sure), but I’m not 100% sure. I keep thinking “well maybe all girls like dressing in guy clothes so this isn’t different”.
I don’t know, I enjoy guy clothes and girl clothes, and I like hanging out w guys like I’m one of them, as well as girls… I don’t even know… help?

Category: Tags: asked February 22, 2015

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You don't have to define your gender by your clothes if you feel comfortable in the clothes you wear and the gender people address you as, check out trevorspace.org if you want to reach out to a large online community of nonbinary or genderfluid people and it may help you discover where you want to sit on the gender-spectrum. Much love and peace out.
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This doesn't mean that you're bisexual/pansexual, I dress kinda boyish sometimes but I know I'm straight. It just means you have friends. Unless you're attracted to the opposite sex.
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I think you just like clothes that reflect your mood. When you want to feel feminine and pretty you dress girly and when you want to wear casual comfortable clothes you dress boyish. I'm the same way and so is everyone else maybe you don't always see it because most don't have the courage to look anything their not but thats them! Sweatpants are AWESOME! I dont think your anything except a tomboy when you feel like it and a girly girl when the mood strikes you so I guess that just makes you a normal person :)
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The way you dress generally has little to do with your gender. Some people like to associate clothing with gender, but it's only a societal construct. Dress in what makes you comfortable. Hanging out and getting along with both boys and girls are also completely normal things, people are people and it's not uncommon to relate to a plethora of different individuals. What defines your gender is really what you feel you are. If you are comfortable in your skin, or even just casually questioning, it's likely that you are simply the gender that you currently define as. Most transexual or genderfluid people have a strong feeling of who they are from a young age. If you do feel strongly that you might be nonbinary or genderfluid, it definitely wouldn't hurt to look into it. www.genderqueerid.com is a really good source for other stories or if you have any other sorts of questions.
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You identify with what you identify with. Don't worry about it. When it all comes down to it, its just the pronouns that people want to change. I prefer they/she depending on how I feel that day/week. it's just a very personal preference. What you wear does NOT define that. It's YOU that defines that. (: Remember that. Good luck, and keep your head up! -Ivy