I’m scared or shy to go to the gym!

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I’m a guy, about 20 years old, and I just started enrolling summer classes this month and I was planning on going to the gym after my classes are over. But the main problem is, I’m really shy because I think I have a disgusting display of physique. But that’s just me, all I can say is I’m not over weight but I’m developing fats from my chest down to my tummy, but not that fat. I want to shape up and have a healthy on going lifestyle at the gym but I want to overcome my fears and shyness among people at the gym, usually the already bulky,bulgy muscular people (usually men) and I want to go the gym alone. Please help me overcome this ridiculous fear of going to the gym.

Category: asked April 11, 2014

8 Answers

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1. Making fun of unfit people in the gym is like making fun of sick people in a hospital2. They can not say ONE THING about it because just you being in a gym is physical, hard evidence that you are trying to change it.
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well , I'm a fitness model and a psychologist . I know for a fact that going to the gym can take a toll and make you feel judged - what you need to try doing is remember you can only feel judged if you give other people the chance - also talking to the gym trainer in the gym will help you because s/he will motivate you Furthermore , try doing a few workouts at home it will help gain your confidence :)If you need more advice feel free to inbox me anytime :)
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Whatever you look like, being at the gym says "I want to do something about this", and everybody respects that. That said, beside the guy showing you around, nobody will probably even talk to you at first, unless you are unlucky and get the "I'll teach you" guy who will vomit on you all he ever read on weights :) but that's a different kind of problem. Go visit the gym at the hours you will go, maybe seeing the actual people you will be around will help you feel more at ease. Big muscolar people have spent hours in pain and sweat, they might be more sober, respectful and helpful than you think.
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People go to the gym to have nice muscles...nice abs... People who are overweight and obese go to the gym to achieve their ideal body. Most of them attained their ideal body of course with hard work and perseverance. Now, do you think if they let their shyness and fears ate them, would they ever become successful in life? would they even achieve their ideal body? In addition to that you know, every bulky men started there. They were all once like you. Forget about your fears, start building up your confidence. Go to the gym with confidence. You go to the gym to improve your physique whether you are obese, normal or overweight. That is the purpose of the gym after all. Above all, don't let them judge you. You know yourself better. Good luck!
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eryone is at a different level in the gym. Although people might look at you and judge usually everyone just minds their own business as they are all trying to fix their own problems. In time everything will get better and better (including seeing results from your efforts). Give it the first step and the rest will follow. Even though there will be days you feel insecure/nervous - everyone at the gym pretty much is or else they wouldn't care about their bodies as much. Don't worry just do it and once you get more fit you can inspire others.
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Just go and do your own thing. Everybody goes to the gym for different reasons. If anybody gets to mocking or anything like that, it's mostly because of their own insecurities. Most bodybuilders and people that go to the gym as a way of life, will be awesome, and supportive. They had their first day too, you know ;).Have an amazing day.
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The gym is for people who want to improve. You arent going to be the only perosn with flaws. Honestly, everyone is worried about their own body at the gym no one even notices others because they are too tired sweating thinking about how many calories they burned.
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Eh, I personally find the muscle bound guys more comical/abnormal looking (walking around like they're hot stuff). You have nothing to be ashamed of. I sort of feel connected to everyone while I'm there but maybe that is just me. I sort of feel like we're all focused on the same thing (a healthy lifestyle). That's all that matters. Focus on you and don't worry about what others think. Most people would cheer you on though, honestly. I'm sure you're being too hard on yourself :)