I’m 16 and female and for the last six months at least my head has been a very very dark place. Around others I perk up but when alls said and done and no ones looking I fall back into the constant state of numb sadness that is always lingering. I detach myself from my family because I simply find them too irritating, as horrible as that seems I can’t control what thoughts enter my head and I think about suicide and other awful things far too much but I can’t help it. I want to see a professional about it because I’m so worried about where I’m going – last year I was such a happy positive person, and I simply don’t know what happened. There is no reason for me to feel like this at all, which makes me feel ashamed because I have such a good quality of life. Is it possible to see a therapist without parental supervision in the uk? My parents would be horrified if I told them any of this and I really don’t want to cause a fuss or worry them. Thank you x
i don't know about having your parents not know about the therapy, but they can definitely step out of the room. look, as troublesome as asking for therapy might be, it obviously needs to be done. i understand that they're going to want to talk about it, more then you want to, but if you don't tell them, they won't ever know. and you might not have to tell them much. and if you do, its good for you to talk about it. this isn't about them, its about you feelings better. they don't have to know what you don't tell them, but a therapist should. and he/she'll be able to read you and help you.
Dont feel you are on your on here,as many people suffer from depression and or suicidle thoughts some time in their life and need to call out for help,just need to do something to help your self,which you are trying to do,by asking here.so good luck. I found 2 things for you.I hope it can help,as you can speak to people over the phone.Or just go to their web site. Support and advice for people living with mental illness.Phone: 0300 5000 927 (Mon-Fri, 10am-2pm)Website: www.rethink.org or Samaritans UK & ROI
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You shouldn't feel ashamed at all, also I think you coming out and asking for advice shows you are taking one step ahead to deal with your emotions. I know that step is rather hard to take so well done for taking that leap and asking for advice. :) I too hide my real feelings and put on a brave face when around others, I dont want to worry people. As you are 16 you can see a gp/specialist/therapy etc.. Confidential. Once you feel ready to take the step and telling your parents I am sure they will do their best to show their love and support. Being a mother myself I know I would be hurt if my child kept a secret from me no matter how big or small; I would feel happy that my child could speak to me how they felt. (even though my children are toddlers at the moment) if you dont feel ready to tell them, then see someone you trust. Getting things off your chest helps too. Xx
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