I’m not even dating this guy yet but he’s really clingy. I feel like I’m being smothered.

Okay so this guy asked me out a few days ago and I said yes, because I’d really liked him last year (the feelings have faded a bit since then). We made plans to go to this froyo place on saturday, but he’s been wanting to walk with me to and from school, and now he wants to go to a school football game tomorrow night. We don’t even have anything to talk about because we dont have many common interests… I just feel so smothered and I don’t know what to do. If we do end up dating then he’ll be my first boyfriend but I just feel like I can do better. Besides, he’s a really awkward conversationalist… and I need someone who can talk to me, who can make me laugh, but everyone i know is telling me to date him and i already said i’d go with him to the game and the froyo place… I’ll feel bad about backing out… I just dont know what to do

Category: Dating & Relationships asked September 5, 2013

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Zanna

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Definitely don't settle! You will regret dating someone who is really clingy in the long-run -trust me.- And it's okay to tell him that you don't want to date him, some people just aren't compatible with each other. I would just be straightforward with him though, you wouldn't be paying him any favors by dating him if you aren't into him. Since you kind of already agreed to go to the froyo/ football game with him I would say just go so you can be sure of how you feel about him, as well as keeping your word. Don't listen to other people, you have the right to dictate who you want and not want to date. If you can, maybe when you get froyo or something tell him that you don't see him that way. Anyway, I wish you all the best!

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bricheese

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hmm, I'm not sure why someone would give my answer a negative rating. Its obvious the solution here is clear communication. What better way to concisely convey your feelings to this person than to tell him exactly what you wrote here, which I assume is honest and heart felt. I enjoyed a successful 15 year relationship that was so because of our ability to communicate open and honestly with one another. Our separation was also a product of mutual, straightforward communication. Its part of being a mature grown-up. Try it.

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Twangn

Discuss it with him, but be aware that guys, especially younger ones and nervous ones will tend to be too clingy, talkative and such. He is just trying impress you and is afraid of losing you. Give him a chance to calm down, and you might see better results. It's always worth a shot. Like I said before though, if it really bothers you, then be sure to discuss it with him.

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AbridgedSquirrel

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print out what you just wrote and give it to him next time you see him

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Twangn