I’m afraid to come out

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I’m a guy. And I like guys. I have come out to a bunch of friends, but my family is a different story. My mom is very religious, and she watches church shows every sunday. My dad, he’s a psychologist and works at a prison. Both see me as an innocent child, and barely know me as an individual.

Category: Tags: asked January 5, 2014

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I think you should slowly start to show them who you really are. Not saying tell they you are gay yet but i but i think you and your parents should start to see each other differently. you are their child and they should except you as whoever you are. they can help you and guide you in whatever way you need. they should support your thoughts and reason with you on them. Good Luck. Hope this helps!
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You're parents will love you no matter what. They should accept you for who you are! Just sit them down together and tell them, there's no need to drag it out, you might as well just spill. At first there may be some hostility but eventually they will grow accustomed to the idea. They kind of have to! We are all Gods beautiful creations and he loves us all :) xoxo good luck!!
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Hello Asterisk, you did the right thing in reaching out.

It is never easy coming out, but your parents love you, and if your mother is a compassionate person, she will understand, and if your father is true to his field, so will he.

Never be afraid to be who you are. You have every right to pursue your happiness as yourself, not as an image of who you think others want you to be.

When you come out to your parents, that guilt of hiding yourself can't hurt you anymore.

Please keep in contact and let us know how things progress. Never forget that you matter, and you are not alone.
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it is fantastic that you are trying to tell them. it may seem scary, but you have the right to be honest to the world. try and spend a lot of time with your family, bond and be honest. it may be an uphill battle, but they will still love you. dont be ashamed, be proud, there is nothing wrong with you, and you will always be their innocent little boy, no matter who you love, they wont care. no matter what happens, you will be so much happier being free with this. just tell them that you love them, and you hope they will understand, and they will. my friend was in a similar situation. he is from a very small, conservative christian town, and he was so afraid to come out that he started getting very depressed, but when he told them, they were fine with it, his mother even sets him up on dates with guys now. they are just happy he found out who he truly is. life is about finding yourself, and being proud of it.
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Test the waters, bring up lgbtq news, people in the media stuff like that. If you think that there is a possibility that you will be kicked out or that your parents will turn abusive PLEASE BE CAREFUL. 40% of homeless youth are in the lgbtq this is a major problem. That being said if you think it is safe I'd build a support network of friends, teachers, the gsa at your school if there is one, and maybe a supportive church member or figure if you think that would help with your mom. Point them towards resources and let them respectfully ask questions to help them understand you better and to let them know that you are who you are and there's nothing wrong with you, nothing that needs to be fixed or hidden. Be patient, it may take some time, but they're your parents and they love you so they'll come around. Coming out can be very liberating, you can be open about your identity and show people that you are proud of who you are. If you think coming out as gay would be too much too fast for you or your parents maybe you could first express yourself as openly supporting the lgbtq community and go from there? Good luck! If you ever need to talk or want advice feel free to message me! Fyi I'm an openly queer 15 year old from a very progressive, supportive family, but I'm still closeted about being trans.