I’m a guy and I need a girls opinion in this relationship

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Ok. Im 16 and my girlfriend is 14 she’s independant, and mature for her age, but sense its getting hot she wants to wear booty shorts and i don’t want her too, because we have a long distance relationship for seven months and we’re in love and she’ll say that I’m not entitled to her and that she can wear want she wants i know but for a guy, people today are very different and I get jealous very easy and I’m very protective but I understand what she’s trying to say but I don’t like guys looking at her like that even when I’m in Virginia and she’s in ohio and the only time we see each other is on pictures or skype, but I know girls like to wear what they want but can you’ll understand me please.

asked May 12, 2014

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I understand where you're coming from, but long distance relationships need a lot of trust, and if you don't have that you shouldn't be in one. Even if you were close you would need to trust her. Wearing short shorts or clothes that will keep her cool do not automatically mean she is going to cheat on you or other things you may thing. She is right, you cannot be controlling what she wears, etc, or your relationship will not last much longer. Speaking from experience here, when I was her age a guy did something similar to me and it will escalate to something even worse. Trust or end it, that's it. If you want to talk more, just let me know. If you want people to see your side of the story, you have to try to see her side.
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Well I'm in a long distance relationship. I live in Alabama and he lives in California. Well ultimately it's her choice whether or not to wear the shorts. But if she cared enough about how you felt, she'd respect her decision. It's something you guys need to skype about.
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I understand you. What is troubling though is what is her motive of wearing the booty shorts. Is she doing it for herself? To get other guys' attention? Hmm why? If she is doing it for other guys' attention then that is alarming. I think you should discuss her motives concerning that issue. Yes, she is to do what makes her happy but when in relationship you are to consider the other person's feeling too and if she is doing this to get attention from other guys then that's sad and alarming to your relationship. It is another thing to seek a healthy dose of attention but another thing to seek lustful attention.
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Let her know why you don't want her going around like that, and if she still refuses, then ask her to find some more modest shorts that are still short enough, because I know that there are some. Modesty is key, and let her know that's what you want.
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I think you just have some deep trust issues, and shouldn't be in a long distance relationship. You're over controlling and way too possessive, so long distance isn't for you. She's going to wear short shorts. Telling her not to is just dumb.