If you could get rid of ONE fear that you have in life, what would it be and why?
Mine is cockroaches, but i’d much rather stay away – fearless or not. Perhaps I would rid my fear of aliens. I have always had this thing with aliens that freaks me out, i can’t even watch the kid’s alien movie “Paul”. Pathetic, yes lol.
Mine is the fear of success. It could be interpreted as the fear of failure, but I truly fear any modicum of success because I fear losing it all over again.
I used to take risks. I practiced parkour and even stopped doing that because it made me feel free and inspired me. When I fled from success, I burned bridges in all directions, to my continued detriment. I detest my self-limiting fear, but anytime I catch myself on the verge of improving my station again, I freeze and retreat to my home for days.
This pathological inability to pursue tangible success is holding me in the most frustrating state of purgatorial limbo I can imagine. I have lost 4 good years of my life to this state, and in spite of my desire to break it, I cannot muster the will.
Mine is Losing someone,
After a few past lost relationships i have found myself scared to make that commitment to someone not because i didnt like them but because i dont want to get tht close again to someone and then have those walls fall down on me once again
i get too attached sometimes and in the end it always seems to get pulled right from underneath me. so basically i just wish i could have tht confidence again in a relationship without worrying about when it is going to end
I have many but the number one fear I would want to get rid of is my fear of the sharks. I have heard the saying that "as long as you don't mess with the shark it won't mess with you." and such but I just can't bear to see a monster like that coming at me or next to me with its razor sharp teeth. I sometimes even think about how it must feel to get bitten and I go pale. Plus once I was at a beach (not saying the specifics) with my whole family and the coast guard was whistling at everyone to get out of the water and it was cloudy that day so I thought he was just warning us about some thunderstorm coming about. Then I hear my mom and dad from far away saying to run out and I see my mom panicking, at that moment I was far out in the water with my uncle and I was sitting on this floatie for the water and I don't know why but my uncle just started running off without me and I was alone in the water. I was about 8 and not a very good swimmer so I just stood there quietly confused because I thought why are people freaking out over some clouds, then I hear the coast guard with the megaphone and he yelled "Shark in the water, run out."
I remember I went pale on that floatie and I started shaking and I kept telling myself to stop because I was afraid of falling off from shaking so much and I look up and I watch as my dad starts to run in the water to come and I put my head down to look at the water and I didn't see a fin or anything nearby but I kept quiet. Then someone with those surfboards that you stand on grabbed me by the back of my one piece swimsuit and put me on his board and told me to grab his leg. He was able to get me to shore and I could barely stand because I was terrified. My mom was slapping my uncle and yelling at him and then she came to hug me and the coast guard was talking to me asking if I was okay and I just nodded. When we were packing up to leave my grandpa points out to the water and that's when we saw the fins and it was two great whites in the water.
This may seem like some fake story but this happened and this is the reason why I cannot step foot in the ocean. I have been humiliated by friends who say I am a wuss to not get in. I stay by the sand every time we visit the beach. I can't have fun like I used to because I am afraid of what is underneath the water. It affects me a lot because even when my dad helps me to try to get in the water I start panicking and screaming and I jump on his back because I am afraid.
I fear that I will never have someone love me, really truly love me without having to. I know my family, and some friends love me and that if I have kids they will love me and that I will not die alone. But I fear that I will never have someone just love me for me.
Fear of just being myself, I guess. The self-consciousness and neurosis of being seen rawly -- without explanations, apologies, qualification, worry, guilt or shame.To be able to forget myself, to just be. That would be nice.
What a beautiful & overwhelming response from everyone! Such an awesome variety of things we all fear in different ways! I hope we call overcome whatever fears we have to become better and stronger individuals.
Probably the fear of success for myself (though others may have said the same thing)...more often than I'm not I don't push myself hard enough to achieve my goals and don't go after risks because I don't want to face consequences...but everyone needs to face the music at some point....also no one progresses quickly without taking risks as well as both go hand and hand....