I would love to do homeschooling to become more independant. Is this a good decision?

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Recently i just got into high school filled with drama and it doesn’t excite me. I just get depressed when i am there because the people i am surrounded by makes me feel bad about myself. I try to find new people and i know that they’ll come to me but for now i want to be more independent. Do you think its a good decision?

Category: Tags: asked April 28, 2019

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To be honest, I think it’s a great decision. If your situation allows it, I don’t see why you shouldn’t take the shot. I actually grew up homeschooled, all of my life. I’ve struggled with depression and anxiety since I was little, and homeschooling made life a lot easier. I didn’t have many friends, but that wasn’t necessarily an issue for me; I found that it was actually a good thing. I wasn’t surrounded by drama or falseness. Just a few really great friends, and I learned a lot more than those friends who weren’t homeschooled— That’s not to say I was smarter, just that I was allowed a wider range of possibilities when it came to learning things. I could learn whatever I wanted, really. No limitations, no strict schedule. Not to mention, I wasn’t forced to get up at extreme hours of the morning, and thus, I was considerably rested. I had short school days and short school years. All-in-all, if I had the chance to go back and change any of it, I definitely wouldn’t. My girlfriend was also homeschooled from about middle-school and onward; we both turned out fairly well. ETA: I wanted to add that being homeschooled does not mean you get left out on “public school activities”; depending on the programs that you become a part of, most will actually let you decide if you’d like to partake in certain classes at the actual school. It also allows you to attend their events and go to graduation in the end. When homeschooling, you are still part of whichever local school you live near. For me, growing up, I was always allowed access to things at the public schools I lived near. I could’ve taken all kinds of classes if I’d liked, as many or as few as I preferred. I could’ve gone to gym or just gone to eat lunch with people. I could’ve attended all the dances, movie events, prom, etc.. I was even allowed to attend graduation and stand alongside other people who were graduating. I had all of these choices, but personally, I didn’t choose any of them. I didn’t miss out on having different teachers and not being a part of certain things, because I made that choice, even while being homeschooled. There are a lot of misconceptions about homeschooling; it’s because a lot of people merely see it as you sitting at home all day and doing nothing but learning from limited-sourced books and whatnot. But that’s not what it is at all. All they see is what they can see from the outside. Trust me, I grew up with that judgement all of my life, whether it was from other family members or even my doctor. You actually have more freedom and more choices with homeschooling, and not enough people realize that or the benefits that truly come along with it.
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It's up to you to understand if things would go different at home, or you would end up in the same spot, maybe by looking at how you deal with summer vacations. We are talking about making your world smaller, and that includes your support systems.
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I was homeschooled for much of my childhood, and after joining a high school at the start of my freshman year, the stress really got to me and I was really depressed. Homeschooling is a good way to become independent, but it makes socialising harder when you are faced with such situations, and if you attend college after finishing high school it will be a totally different setting and the stress will be likely to get you.
You will also be missing out on the typical high school experiences, like dances and bus rides where you can talk to your friends and graduation and going to movies. You might miss out on some of the stress, plus being homeschooled allows you to work at your own pace, but attending college will be a totally different story and you won't have high school under your belt.
Ultimately, though, it is up to you, and there is no certainty that your homeschooling experience will be anything like mine. I wish you the best and I hope a decision is come to that will aid you in all your endeavours.
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I believe ANY decision that helps you to grow and prosper, without hurting others, is always a good choice but I always would recommend a plan in case things don't work or if one day they get frustrating. That way if you ever feel like its just getting too much you can always have something safe to fall back on or a safe way to detox from the stress of more independence in life, truth be told independence as amazing as it is can also be extremely stressful. I wish you the best of luck in all that you do and I hope this is a successful step forward for you!
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I believe ANY decision that helps you to grow and prosper, without hurting others, is always a good choice but I always would recommend a plan in case things don't work or if one day they get frustrating. That way if you ever feel like its just getting too much you can always have something safe to fall back on or a safe way to detox from the stress of more independence in life, truth be told independence as amazing as it is can also be extremely stressful. I wish you the best of luck in all that you do and I hope this is a successful step forward for you!
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It's good if you find a way to keep seeing friends and socializing. Home school can be a double edged sword sometimes if you don't have anywhere except school that you socialize with others. It can help you become more responsible and get work done or make you super lazy and an socially impaired butterfly. If you have some other outlet where you hang out with people besides online then I say go for it! But if not I'd stay in high school because getting credits can be harder in home school and you need to socialize even if you don't want to.
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Thank you both! I truly appreciate it and i will list the pros and cons.
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So i've made a decision based on these answers and i know my parents would be likely to say no to it. But, to be true, I can write down a few points each of you have made in order to convince them into letting me try homeschooling. If i am all prepared to talk to them with a few notes written down then they'd most likely think that i am prepared and know the pros and cons to doing so. Unfortunately, there is a likely chance they'd say no although i have spoke to them about all the drama and issues going on in this school year and also known as my first year in high school. Hopefully they will consider it to be a great decision (as i think it will work out and i can focus on my studies instead of all the drama). I would have time to myself and do all my work quietly and independently. Thank you for your answers and I will discuss the pros and cons with my parents!
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Well... Although it's technically not your decision, I'd say you may not truly want that if it was. There are pros and cons to homeschooling as opposed to the way most people get schooling, so you have to decide that for yourself. If you're homeschooled, extracurricular activities are probably unavailable to you, meaning the process of getting accepted to college- should you choose to do that- will be a lot more difficult. Also, you miss out on all the cool things that appear in high school-based movies: homecoming/prom, lunch with friends, after school events and parties, field trips, yearbooks, and cool teachers worth remembering. Maybe none of that matters to you now, but there's a possibility you'll regret not having those things later in life. Of course, public schools and even private schools aren't perfect either. Depending on where you live, the sexual education programs can be a nightmare. (One could argue the same is true for homeschooling, technically.) Homeschooling usually gives you one teacher for every subject, but in public schools you have more teachers and therefore are more likely to find one you love and less likely to have all of your teachers suck. Public schools give you school faculty that you can use to help you with things other than learning and studying. It's probably not likely homeschooling could provide you access to as many books as a public school library does (although that could be supplemented by traveling to an actual library). All in all, your choice between homeschooling and public schools- if you even have a choice- should be based on the question, "What's most important to me?" You should think about what you want from your school experience and pick the one that best fits it. Some things are unpredictable, so don't rely on things you can't guarantee will be true such as, "My parents are nice, so they'll go easy on me if I'm homeschooled." or, "My public school could NEVER treat the bullying problem, so it's healthier for me to abandon that as a whole instead of finding my own solution." or, "I'm never going to find friends at my public school, so I might as well be homeschooled." Whatever you end up doing, I hope you're happy with it. Think before acting and your choice will have that much more meaning. Good luck, dude.