on tumblr I’m sure many of you know of people’s personal posts, namely the depressing ones. I’ve made it a habit sort of, to go on anonymous and send people nice messages and ask them not to publish it (so that they and they alone can read it). It’s worked for a while but sometimes, when I REALLY want to help a person, I go off anon.
but like, it feels like no matter how much help I offer or how much I try to assure them I’m willing to listen to them, nobody cares. A few years ago I would have done ANYTHING to have one person listen to me, to have one person care, and I rarely ever did. so I try to do what I didn’t have in my time of depression, and offer a hand to others. but nobody seems to take it….??
I know. I am not obligated to offer to help others, but I WANT to. I don’t want anything in return, I just want to know that I am able to be USEFUL and to HELP somebody. But I often get ignored half the time…
it’s making me wonder if some of these people keep posting what they post for attention. or maybe, I just come off as creepy, or they don’t want help. I don’t get it. “oh Nobody cares”, well, /i/ care. I just want to be of help to others…
so my question is, should I stop? it’s really frustrating when I write a genuine paragraph to a person only for them to fuckign ignore me when I seriously want to help. Am I coming off as creepy? that’s certainly not my intention; the only thing I want to do if offer a listening ear and, if possible, help a person out. Depression isn’t fun, I was there, I had nobody to talk to so it just confuses me when people on these websites constantly complain and complain about having no one to listen and the. there”/ like 5 people who sincerely want to…
I was anonymous one time and gave my cell number (and I never ever touch my phone, but the person was unstable so I made this exception), and I really wasn’t expecting a message anyways but…nothing.
Am I too outgoing. foward? blunt? to the point of creepy? I don’t want to make people uncomfortable despite only wanting to help, but I just think I shouldn’t put the effort into those certain users anymore… I’m still going to continue sending random people nice anonymous messages, but otherwise I think I’m going to stop, since I’m obviously not doing a good job anyways.
Do you think it’s creepy to try and offer to help so much? Should I just stop? Thank you, sorry for whining so much I’m just not sure what to do (╯︵╰,)