I think I’m in love with my best friend. What do I do?

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So there is this guy I’ve known for four years, and He is my best friend. He is the only person who has regularly kept up with me after graduating. He is the only one of my friends that knows my complete situation, about my emotionally abusive grandma, and my depression. He is really supportive, even though he has been on his mission for the last two years, and on the opposite side of the country. He is the most amazing guy ever. Unfortunately i have to hide my friendship with him because my grandma doesn’t like him. He called me this morning, and even though he only got to say Hi, (my nickname)[the first time he has used it verbally because i only recently started using it]; hearing his voice for the first time in two years made my bad day 500% better. We are really great friends, and so i don’t want to ruin it by telling him that i think I ‘like’ him, but i know if i never say anything i’ll never know if he likes me back. Also He is mormon and knows that i will never convert, and mormons usually don’t date non mormons. So I’m just really worried.

Category: asked August 10, 2015

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(It's my first experience with Q&A's, hope I'm doing it right :P) Well, I'm happy to see such a nice friendship between you. He really looks like someone who cares about you and I see why you like him more than as a friend. You must already know about the risks of declaring yourself to a friend. The consequences are generally extreme (Or you start dating, or you stop talking), but if you think it's worth it, then go for it. If he says yes, then great! If he doesn't, you just have to give time to time and things will fix themselves. You'll be back to being good friends eventually. About the mormon thing: even though that could be an obstacle (as well as your grandma), you should talk to him about it first. Ask him if he'd date a non-mormon girl, then start flirting with him... Don't go too fast, or it'll end up being a shock to him. If you take things slowly, things will become clearer between you two, so when you take the risk, you'll have more chances of getting it right. Hope I've helped :)
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There was another question that was like this about 1.5 weeks ago. Although the circumstances are different for this question I'm about to post you, it may be helpful/interesting to check out for you:
https://blahtherapy.com/questions/i-think-im-in-love-with-my-best-friend-7/
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If he is as good a friend as you seem to perceive him as to grow these feelings then he may have feelings for you himself that he is nervous to tell you about. I suggest you ask him to go for a walk to the store or to the park and just catch up and ask him a question about why he went to go see you and if he says that he did it because he hadn't seen you in a long time then ask him what the real reason is in detail.
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Is there any chance that you are confusing the happiness of hearing a comforting voice in the midst of a sad situation as romantic love? I would be very cautious about proclaiming love to someone that you have not had any interactions with in almost a year.
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There may be a chance that you are considering hearing from him after a long time as love. As stated by AnnieH, there is a chance that listening to his comforting voice is being considered as love. First you figure it out, then think about it. Plus there's no harm in telling him. Look if you don't tell him, you will be cursing yourself for your whole life that you should have said it. There is a very good probability that he is in love with you too. Just say it. You may surprise yourself.Ciao MO