Normally I identify as non-binary, but lately I’ve been feeling like a specific gender one day and another the next. Some days I’ll feel like I’m a guy and a girl at the same time, or neither. Today’s a girl day, but I have no idea what tomorrow will be and on days that don’t match my biological gender, I have really severe dysphoria and I feel like I’m detached from my body. My mother is disapproving of the clothing I wear and will only ever allow me to get clothing from my biological gender’s department when we go shopping, and I’m certain that she wouldn’t even consider for a moment allowing me to buy myself a body modifier or any other sort of thing like that. When she found out I identified as non-binary, she told me that I’m too young to be thinking about my “gender identity” (scare quotes included, I could hear them in her voice) and that I need to focus on school. (I’m typically a straight-A student so that’s bullshit). Usually I’m a bit cynical when it comes to the physical world (which I’m working on) but when it comes to myself I like having terms that I can help define myself with so I don’t feel broken or out of place. (Learning that asexuality exists was one of the best days of my life).
I don’t know if I should come out as genderfluid to my mother, or wait until I know what’s going on with me, or just stay in the closet until I’m old enough to move out and support myself? My friends know that I identify as non-binary and they use my pronouns for the most part despite a few slip-ups, and my pronouns wouldn’t change if I started identifying as genderfluid instead, so should I at least tell my friends?