I think I’m falling for someone I shouldn’t…

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I’m in 8th grade going to be a freshman in 7 months, and, I’m sure everyone knows how much change happens at this age. I’m what a person in my grade calls an outsider/geek. I think there is nothing wrong with that, just means I’ll have an interesting book to write when I’m famous. Anyways,there are these group of people who have their noses high up in the air and confidence so low they need to feel better by putting others down. There are the boys of that group and they are assholes. Well one of them, came up to me and asked me out as a joke. At first I was kind of shocked mostly because he was talking to me, a little bit because he was cute. Then I saw his friends snickering behind him and my stomach sank. I said right then and there, “No.” He went back to his table and all his friends went, “Awww!” or, “Rejected!” My friends told me my face turned red and still was when he back to his seat. One of them said he was asking out more girls and she thinks he being pressured to get a girlfriend. Now everyone is making fun of us. But, I had a thought in the back of my mind… what if… You see I really don’t see the point of having a boyfriend because I’m really busy with a solo thing for my chorus group, play practice, homework, planing my high school classes and getting the grades necessary for some(I want to be a writer/director and need to figure out what credits I need for a few collages I want to go to)… Recently, I get… shaky and nervous around him. My breathing and heartbeat even are weird. The more I keep shoving those things down and controlling them, the harder it is not to do that. So, I have reverted myself to not looking at him and acting like he’s a brick wall. His locker it literary 3 feet away from mine and his desk in most classes are closer to mine. He plays sports and is a class clown around everyone. He isn’t all that smart, good grade wise (I know because his friends and him talk to loud in class) and in the past, his Ex has took their business to Facebook and plainly told the world that he’s a player. Even my guy friends have said, he’s an asshole.
Evidence says he’s an ass and you know what they say, if it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck and, looks like a duck… it’s a duck.
I know he’s a jerk but, I still am feeling… I need help… Any advise?

Category: asked February 7, 2015

3 Answers

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Honestly, I've been in the same position, but trust me, it's not worth it. It's your woman instincts that are getting you 'flustered' over a guy like that, but they're more trouble than it's worth. If you have to compromise respect for yourself than the other person is not worth it.(I know it sounds heartless, but it's the cold, unwanted truth) You will find somebody who likes you for you and make you feel better than some hot jerk.
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When I was in school I was the the shy quiet girl that pretty much kept to herself unless her friends were around and very few of those and I was my true self around them. I had a crush not a crush a MAJOR crush on this guy Timmy. He was new and popular and mean. I was eating a cookie around my friends and i got brave and talked to him and to my face tells me my breath stinks from that cookie. I wanted to cry and ball up and maybe smack him but I didnt i Just went back to my friends and gobbled that cookie right up while looking at him from across the room. His friends were laughing at him for even saying anything to me. One day not around my friends i saw him in the hall way in between classes and i stopped him in the hall. I told him he was a rude and mean person and that I liked him and i didnt understand why he was rude towards me and I asked him to a movie..He said yes. we went to said movie had fun and then he broke up with me but i did find out he was a good guy when hes not near his friends.I guess what Im trying to say is if you do like him tell him and if he is rude tell him if you want to go on a date tell him. The worst that could happen is he says no and the best is if he says yes and you get to know him. I ended up becoming really good friends with timmy.Good luck.
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I completely understand! Almost the same thing happened to me but it was his friends who were the assholes and fake asked me out for him and spread it throughout school that I was a loser. It sucked, especially since it was my first year back at that school (I left because people were bullies and hit me because of my Tourette's, I've since recovered). Here is what I would say, don't expect him to change. If you want to pursue this then you can't expect for him not to be a player or for him to change for you. I am not going to say no,because I mean you only know what you've heard , but if he doesn't treat you right then get rid of him.