Okay so I dated this guy for about 2 and a half years and we had a massive fight a few months ago and broke up. I went out and got with a guy, the only thing was me and my boyfriend got back together a few days later. I didn’t tell him anything that happened, mistake number one. Mistake number 2, I didn’t tell this guy I got back with my boyfriend. we kept talking, and we would see each other around, we were at a party and we hooked up again, I told him then after what had happened. My boyfriend had no idea until my close friend told him a few weeks later. We broke up, obviously, and didn’t talk except for the occasional fight for about 2 months. We caught up on holidays and went out to a dam together to camp, where we kissed and made up, only to receive a text a few days later saying we couldn’t be together etc, what do I do? He messages me and we see each other all the time, and he obviously flirts with me but he just wants to be friends, and I want more!
I actually just broke up with my boyfriend and I really miss him, like you I see him around tall the time. I want to hangout with him and be more than friends, but he distances himself sometimes. There are a lot of factors that could play in to why he flirts with you but doesn't want to be in a relationship. I think that right now, like Dennis said, you might just have to give him space. When he's ready to talk to you on a serious note, he'll let you know. But as of now, I think you should try to hangout with other friends and maybe try to move on, but acknowledge that things have changed and the different possibilities.
the only piece of advice I can give you is to let go. It sounds harsh, but you can't keep holding onto something that's already too far gone.
You see that he flirts with you a lot,but that's inevitable. I mean, you dated for over two years, you're always going to have feelings for each other that won't go away.
But, you can't push every little problem aside and pretend like it's all okay. there's comes a point where you just can't come back from all of the problems and arguments.
I'm not saying it's impossible for you guys to be together again, because with a lot (and I mean A Lot) of hard work and cooperation on both of your parts, it could happen. But if it were me, I would save myself from all of the pain and frustration and just accept that we aren't together anymore.
Everything happens for a reason.
I recently broke up with my boyfriend of four years, I know what you're going through. Please don't be afraid to message me if you wanna talk!