I need someone perspective cause I don’t know what to do


Well, it’s kind a long story but i’ll keep it simple. Since I was in primary school I like this guy, I’ve known him since we were in kindergarden and we’ve been friends since then. I don’t know how the feeling started but it happened. I’ve always wanted to tell him how I feel but I couldn’t. Now I’m in my penultimate year of high school and finally the last day of school I told him how I really felt (because he talked with a friend of mine and he told her that nobody wanted him and he gave me sorrow and guilty and well that happened). But the problem here is that since that day we haven’t spoken…It’s been 5 months since that…even that we share the same classroom every day. My friends talked to him and he wants me to talk first cause when he proposal to another girl a few years agos he talked to her first. I think that he should talk to me first because I’ve been waiting him to tell me even ‘it’s not you it’s me’ or ‘you deserve someone better’ and that stuff. But he never answer me. Also I can’t help but I still in love with this guy (he’s the only guy I have loved) and I don’t know why. I feel very bad about it because I feel I destroyed our friendship and I feel nothing but guilty. I only want to go back in time and to everything be like before. Please if you know what should I do, tell me. I’ll be very grateful. Thank you and have a good day :) (sorry but english isn’t my first language)

Category: Tags: asked May 17, 2014

1 Answer

Hi Sol,First of all, you did nothing wrong. It's completely natural for a person who has feelings for another person, to want to express those feelings. In my opinion, keeping emotions bottled up can lead to a lot of hurt and anxiety. If you hadn't told him how you felt (which in itself is a commendable act, it takes a lot of courage to do that), you would have had to suffer in silence, whilst watching him get involved with other girls. You would've hated that, trust me. I did that and it was by far the worst decision I've ever made. The not knowing is what kills you. That is why I think you did the right thing. You went up to him and told him how you felt and now, even though it doesn't seem so and you regret taking that step, you will feel peace in the future, knowing that you did what was in your power to make it work. Unfortunately, loving someone does not mean they will love you back. I'm sorry it is so, but it is a harsh reality we must face when falling in love. But nothing good comes from settling. From taking no risks. You did your part and you should never regret acts of courage that stemmed from pure emotions, such as love. You're very brave and I admire you. I think you should talk to him, tell him that you have feelings for him, but that you understand if he doesn't return them. Tell him you at least deserve a straight answer, a face-to-face talk, because before love there was friendship, and it's not fair to be avoided because he doesn't want to tell you his answer. Go talk to him in a calm, gentle manner and at least find out where he is at. Be prepared to hear the answer you don't want to receive, but keep your chin up and eyes forward and be proud of what a brave person you are! Congrats!