I’m in kind of a weird situation where I’m not really sure what I should do. I work at Subway and I have a male co-worker who I’ve gotten to know as a result. Over time, we’ve grown closer and he and I have both admitted that we are into one another. However, I am a senior in college and he is a senior in high school. I know that it’s super weird and not conventional, but I’ve really had a long time to think hard about it. All in all, I’ve realized that I just genuinely like this person and that it is not just me “giving up on guys my own age,” as some people have said to me when I have told them about my situation. This guy acts a lot more mature that most guys my age and seems to have it all together pretty well, so I don’t really think that it is a question of either of our maturity either. I know that if anything did happen, I would not be open to a physical relationship with him until he was 18, but I still feel apprehensive. I would honestly appreciate any advice on the subject. Is it wrong or am I just being put off by the fact that this is not conventional?
I believe if you truly have feelings for him then maybe you should give a relationship (wether it be bf/gf or simply more than coworkers) a chance. You obviously have a good head on your shoulders to know that getting involved physically can lead to consequences, therefore, If the two of you are mature (which I believe you are) enough then you should consider pursuing a relationship despite the age difference. Dating someone that isn't your age isn't "giving up on them". In all honesty its almost like dating someone outside of your race. Do you see color? Or just a human being? Do you see a young kid? Or a guy who is mature and could potentially relationship material?I wish you the best of luck! Feel free to inbox me if you need someone to talk to or need advice on another matter :) Keep your chin up! You got this! :D
Time clarifies most things. Hold off on the intimacy until he passes 18, take that time to get to know one another. Don't just date; do all kinds of things together. As you get to know a person better, you will find out if you truly want to be with them.
Keep in mind that it takes a long time to truly get to know a person. Be patient, with him and with yourself.
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