I need advice. Don’t know what to do..

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I guess I’ll try to make this story short.
I’ve liked this dude for a long time, since Sept of 2012. He started talking in either December, January, or February, I still can’t remember right. We became best friends. But then, the tornado came, his house was hit, he moved away May 2013, broke up with his girlfriend Sept 2013, and I told him I think I love him a little after that. A little later, in Oct, he said he loved me for the first time. We were a thing, and we started actually dating on Jan 29 this year. We broke up at the end of March, beginning of April, because not being able to see me was depressing him. (I’m not allowed to date, so I couldn’t see him.) he said we could still be friends and all that and a little later on we kinda did a thing again, like he suggested just acting like our breakup never happened for one full day. I don’t think I did that though. Later I talked to him again, he said something about me not being able to get over him when he had “recently moved on.” He dated that girl for a month, they broke up June 5 if I remember right. Pretty much the next day we were back together.. Not anything official, but it was like none of it had ever happened. It’s been great, but on like Monday or Tuesday night he’s been like he was with our breakup. I dunno, we aren’t happy more, I feel like I’m not enough for him, I can’t keep him happy and it makes me feel bad. I love him a lot, and he says he loves me too, but I guess it’s the distance that bothering him? Even though we’ve been trying to figure out how to. We were actually going to but the day before he like got all blah with me, and all the other people that were going to come wouldn’t have shown anyway, and now that we were all together again, we were gonna try. But I just uh don’t know what to do. Helpppp

Category: Tags: asked June 20, 2014

3 Answers

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Hey! :) I am currently in a long distance relationship and I know they can be hard work. With you though, I would recommend trying your best to get over him. With my first boyfriend, we broke it off and then got back together frequently. It didn't work out. There's always a chance you two can make it work, but I think you should focus on you. Try to be his best friend and let him be happy, but also make yourself happy. There are tons of guys out there, just let your beauty (inner and outer) shine and you can find somebody else. Whatever was meant to be, will be. I hope I helped and I wasn't too cheesy lol. Have a lovely day and an even better life!
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While I'm not sure of all the circumstances surrounding you and he, it sounds like he is on the rocks about your relationship just as much as you are. However, you seem to want to continue with it, while he seems to have doubts - especially since he dated somebody else while you've still had feelings for him. I would suggest you leave the relationship, for good. The only way to do that is to cut off ties; it hurts. It hurts you, it hurts him, but it's better (honestly for you both) if you ignore any of his messages, phone calls, e-mails, etc. I hope the best for you both, this is only a suggestion but from an outside perspective, this is my recommendation. Best of luck!
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Hello I can somewhat relate to what you mean by the distance creating problems because I'm in a long distance relationship my self. And long distance relationships are alot of work. And I dont think he is ready to put in that amount of effort to make it work and sustain. My advise would be to leave him and move on. I would suggest to not talk with him also because he will probably try to get back with you again which will end up in you getting your self hurt. I know it will be hard but its whats best for you. Good luck.