I just want others’ opinions…

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I don’t know where to or how to start this. I’m just feeling done. Again. I have no motivation for anything.
I can’t get over this guy that I’m pretty much in love with. He consumes my thoughts and I know that I’ll never be happy without him, but he could care less.
I’m not good enough for anyone, at all. Especially my family. They just think I’m stupid and maybe they’re right.
I don’t understand why people are so quick to call me various things, such as, and I quote: “cunt”, “asshole”, “stupid bitch”, “slut”, “mean”, “waste of time” etc., you get the point. They call me this without even talking to me sometimes. Just…why? Maybe they actually have a point.
I don’t know about anything anymore. I hate letting people in and getting to know them because they just leave. And I remember everyone who leaves.
Life. It sucks. Does anyone have similar experiences, advice, insight, opinions…? I just needed to vent.

Category: asked February 1, 2014

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You're not alone, trust me. But you need to learn that no one else's opinion about you matters except your own. I dealt with bullying a lot in school and even into my adult life so far... and I've always rolled with the punches and shrugged it off. You need to learn to love yourself; that confidence will reflect in your behaviors and people will take notice. The ones that stick to the petty name-calling aren't worth the time of day. They can only see what they want to see - not the real you.

As far as people leaving... not really sure what to say to that. People come and go, but their footprints will always remain on your heart. It's how you react to the memories and feelings that determines your character. Do you get depressed because they're gone? Or do you laugh and smile because you're grateful that they were a part of your life for the time they were? How you react to the things in your life, both good and bad, determine your character. Make sure you can live with the person staring back at you in the mirror; you're the only one that is guaranteed to stick around for your whole life, after all.
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Thank you guys:)
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Michela, don't let people define you as Jojo said, You are you, no one can say different or change that. You don't have to live up to anyone's standards except your own. Just remember that fully because once you realize that, if anyone says some "bullshit" to you you'll be able to shrug it off and move on happily with your life. I had to learn that out myself. But as for the letting people in. Lets say you don't let anyone in for the rest of your life, you'd never get to know how great of a person they are, or how nice they are, or maybe even make a best friend. You'd be losing that possibility even though you are eliminating the risk of them leaving and it hurting, wouldn't you rather spend time with someone even though you knew that time was limited, rather than not spending time with anyone at all?
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It happens all the time to everyone. People dont take the time to get to know others and make assumptions and statements without even thinking of how it might affect the other person, or they just don't care. Learn to be yourself and not be bothered what others think. as soon as you start living for you you'll realize that just not taking to heart other's opinions about you is the best self therapy you can do. i have trouble doing the same thing, separating my feelings from how other people treat me, but with time practice and patience it's possible to feel better about yourself.