I just can’t..


It’s difficult trying to build my confidence when I’m constantly ridiculed. The emotional abuse from my mother is unbearable. I’ve been putting up with it all these years. I mean, putting men before me. I’m trying my best to take care of myself since no one else cares for me. It’s hard.

asked February 3, 2014

5 Answers

I was also emotionally abused by my parents, and reading the book "toxic parents" really helped. I'm not promoting it or anything, it really helped me through a lot of stuff. I hope I helped
Your situation certainly sounds desperate. :( Tell us a bit about yourself.
im sorry, ive been in a similar situation numerous times. it's so hard to get through each day when you feel alone, but i have a couple suggestions that have helped me. 1) surround yourself with the right people, such as close friends or other relatives. being around the right people that love and support you helps a lot 2) if you dont have anyone you can necessarily confide in, do things you love. continue on with your passions or start something new! there's so much more to life than the opinions of people who dont support you. keep your head up! xxx
I'm sorry to hear that you're having such a hard time. Have you talked to someone about it, like a friend or something? Just the fact of being able to release your feelings and talk about them can sometimes help, even just a little bit.

It's hard yes, but don't give up on yourself. Find things that brings you joy, let yourself be proud over what you manage to accomplish, and don't beat yourself up if you make a mistake. Like you said, you have to look out for yourself, which also means you are the one who can make yourself happy and believe in you. Don't let anyone change who you are and what you can do. You're not her. Be the greater person and rise above that, make better choices than she did.

Here's one thing you can do, for every bad thing you hear, think of two things that you are good at or you have. Or why that's not true. And also, sometimes writing things down helps as well, call it a feelings journal or something. Keep a list of fifteen qualities you have somewhere you see it everyday so you have to look at it, take them in. Another thing... if you feel like it's getting worse, or like it doesn't seem to get any better, maybe try talking to a professional.

Good luck, and remember you're awesome!
Then don't.