Please remember that you are not alone. I know that everything seems so hopeless right now, but please don't forget that no matter how bad you get, we here at BlahTherapy will always be here for you. You can depend on us. You will NEVER be alone.
So far, it's good that you've acknowledged your feelings. Know everything about the emotions you're going through right now. Avoiding them will make it so much worse. I know it's scary and you might be worried that you'll get overwhelmed, but if you keep them locked up, they will spill over and you won't be able to regain any sort of control on yourself. Allow yourself time to let out your hurt everyday, whether it's writing in a journal, talking it out with us here on BlahTherapy, or just sitting under your bedcovers crying until you can't anymore. Let it out, or it will let itself out whether you want it to or not.
Talk about it. This is another, equally bad form of bottling everything up. You can know yourself and your emotions, but it helps and makes it so much better to share it with other people. Talk about it everyday with people you feel safe and comfortable with.
Remind yourself of the good things in your life and going on around the world. Life is so, so incredibly hard for so many of us, and often the world may seem like it's falling apart. Yes, we're struggling, but never forget the good. There are people out there who are fighting for what they believe in, whether it's rallying for a cause or helping those in need. We went from a society where women were property that could legally be stoned to death for adultery to a society where a lot of people are fighting (and winning) against gender inequality, and the nations in United Nations support this. People used to be legally hung for "witchcraft" here in the U.S.. Obviously, we don't really do that anymore. And things can be so horrible and bad, but we're getting better. And you will get better. Always remember to think of the positive things every day.
Take care of yourself. At this time, more than any other time, you must take the best possible care of yourself. You have always and will always deserve to be cared for. So care for yourself. Go to bed at a reasonable hour. Keep busy. Make goals and tell yourself that you love yourself every day. Work out if you need to relieve tension. Relax. Take a twenty-minute nap. Read. And above all, treat yourself with the love you deserve. And you deserve all the love anyone can give. Never forget that.
Remember that you need to let go of what you cannot control. We can't make our lives perfect--we don't have the capabilities to do that. And that's okay. Focus on what you can make better and do it.
Never be too proud or bitter to ask for help. Get therapy and let your therapist help you. Find friends and don't be afraid to ask for help.
Limit your time with people who are toxic. If you are around people who do not support you or are not reliable, you must let them go a little and find people who are. That's what you need right now. Not someone who you can't go to for anything. Not someone who can't or won't be able to go to you in the middle of the night and hug you. Someone who truly cares.
This crisis does not define who you are. We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future.
Do not regret what cannot be changed. Change is constant. It will always happen, ironically. Instead, look towards the future and make a new change for yourself that will lead to happiness.
Everyone heals differently. It's okay if it takes a long time, and it's okay if it doesn't. But I promise that no matter how hard things get, even if you do your best and bad things still happen, that you will find your light at the end of the tunnel.
Life is hard, and it isn't easy. But that's okay, because you will only get stronger. When you're tired, you will still have your strength, and you will still have us to lend our strength to you.
I believe in you.
