i dont understand why im alive


I know I already posted a QnA like this and someone was messaging me and It was getting my mind off of things for a little while but tonight its coming back on… strong.. I don’t get the point of being alive… like in my mind we are alive to die.. I cant find anything positive at all.. all day at school and when im with my boyfriend I am so happy but then I lay down to go to bed and all I can think about is getting old. I know old people that are always saying don’t grow up and I don’t want to grow up I don’t want anything other then the answer WHY ARE WE ALIVE…. im so confused with my life like someone please help me please help me figure this out or give me advice… are you or have you been in this situation before what did you do what can I do… because right now all I can think about doing is getting all of my family in the same room and not letting anyone go I don’t want to miss time with them especially my grandparents…. WHY CANT WE LIVE FOREVER!?!??!?!?!?!?!

asked November 13, 2014

7 Answers

Hello Miss Megan.

"Why can't we live forever?" A powerful and eminently human question, also one that is asked by those who have yet to live happily. It is the untested, the unaccomplished, the ones who have not lived life to its fullest, that ask this question.

I think we all go through the stage where you find yourself; standing on change and fighting to stay afloat, so to speak. Looking for some reliable foundation, the way everything changes can make it seem like life is pointless; everything that comes to be eventually passes away and becomes history, some of it is just remembered for a little longer than others, and somethings pass away having never been known. It is a very sobering feeling.

I am a roleplayer. I've always used my imagination to take my mind and my consciousness away to fantastic and fascinating places. I've read so many books and learned about so many worlds, it is very much like living again and again; through stories we follow the birth, growth and downfall of characters, nations, worlds and universes. Through the skill of reading and imagination, we can very much know what it is like to live for only a few short, empty years, or we can follow the story of things that live for thousands of eventful and imaginative years.

I have lived through more lives that I can remember. I have known the stories of fictional characters whose only notable achievement was asking a tyrant for more food, or who lived an uneventful existence until they stood in front of a tank on international television before being run down and killed. Just the same, through talking to real, living people, I have known stories of triumph from old men and women at the end of their long lives, and irrecoverable defeat from the mouths of people half my age. I've been involved in things you may have seen on the news, and I've been part and partial to things no other living person is or ever will be aware of. In only 27 short years, I've lived.

I roleplayed Highlander for almost 20 years. In that time, as I grew and matured, I had a great deal of time to wrap my mind around what it must be like to be immortal. As a child, immortality fascinated me and it seemed like a neverending adventure, free to explore life at my own pace as I saw fit. As I grew familiar with the concepts of time, I grew interested in Star Trek and concepts of time travel, there I was introduced to more immortal beings who could only bear immortality by being eternal tricksters and pranksters, but underneath their frolicking and foolishness their age quickly showed. From there I resolved to read even more stories about things that seemed to never die. I read H.P. Lovecraft and read about the cosmic horror of undying things that defied our concepts of life. I read Piers Anthony's Incarnations of Immortality and read what it was like to be the avatar of Time. I watched Doctor Who and followed the story of a thousand-year- old being from a race called "Time Lords", his existence hinged on running from the end and doing whatever he could do to help whomever he could along the way. I went on to read Michael Moorcock's "Elric Saga", the story of Elric of Melnibone. To this day, Elric remains the most tortured and tragic figure in literature. He has existed across numerous universes and always with the burden of saving someone or something, even when the very fabric of chaos and creation conspire to force him to lose everything. I have read the Dune saga by the Herbert family and read the life of characters like the nigh-immortal Duncan Idaho, who is resurrected through clones time and again, or the worm-god Leto II who lived for over three thousand years. All of these stories about which I've ranted have imparted to me at least a small experience of what it is like to live beyond mortal ken.

I have studied and pondered and dreamed about long life, my mind going from the infinitesimal to the infinite, and when I talk to those who have lived for a long time, much of what they say is the same, whether they are a real human being who is barely holding on past 100 or a fictional character who is not even aware of how it could cease to be, they all say the same thing: once you have lived long enough, you just get tired, and living well is the only panacea for the fear of death. Death is nothing to fear for those who have resolved to live well. If you choose to live happily, then it becomes easier to accept the debt that all life pays.

If you've stayed with me this far through my rant, I give you credit. I find my mind always going back to a single song by an extraordinary man. Freddie Mercury's "Who Wants To Live Forever?" which addresses your very question.

Faced with the end of his life, Freddie Mercury penned the song "The Show Must Go On", and with barely enough strength to stand on his own feet, he delivered one of the best vocal performances of his already considerable career. He delivered a message to the world that is very much the same from anyone who lives well and gets the chance to pass on their knowledge to anyone else; "Don't be afraid to die. Being afraid of dying doesn't stop death, it only stops you from living well."

As human beings, we are finite and fragile, we all die and that is a basic, fundamental, inexorable fact of nature. It is pointless to resist that fact, and the only reasonable, rational, moral thing to do in light of the fact that one day or another, we all will die, is to live well.

A powerful quote from Doctor Who states "I'm old enough to know that a longer life isn't always a better one." - It is painful to live and watch the people and things we grow to love and cherish pass away, but as long as you have a breath of life in your lungs, you hold the chance to live a better life. That is up to you and you alone to make your life worth having lived. Don't search for something else to arbitrarily assign a meaning or purpose to your existence; define your own life on your own terms and by your own deeds.

As absurd a statement as this is, if you'd like to discuss this further, my inbox is always open.
We are alive to live. We are born a clean slate, empty. We have never experienced anything, never wanted anything, never dreamed of anything and never achieved anything. We are hear to conquer our fears, achieve our dreams, fall in love, get our hearts broken, scrape our knees and watch them heal. We are hear to do whatever we choose to do. Growing old is an inevitable factor in life, but being old is a choice, you can choose not to have fun anymore, not to adventure or experience new things. Life is all about opportunity, we are here to do what gives us joy and what gives others joy. The purpose of life is to live, not to die.
The way I see it the entire point of life is to have an effect on others and make your name something that will live on for ages. You have to do something that will make your Grandkids ask you to repeat the story over and over again and squeal with delight everytime. Life is only precious because it ends and while yes, on a scientific level we are just here to make kids and carry on the human race, your one life can have affects on billions or even trillions of lives. Being kind to one person today could have massive consequences down the line. Just look at Sweden's royal family; they are there because a FRENCH soldier showed mercy to 5 Swedish soldiers and he became so popular in Sweden that they made him King although he had never been there before. That was hundreds of years ago, just imagine what your acts could do to the advancements of our race.
When you think about it, if we lived forever, life wouldn't be something to cherish. Everyone would've experienced everything. We then would ask, "Why do we live forever?"It just matters on how you look at it.
The fact that you're alive should make you happy. Those who are born have a purpose. You were blessed with the gift of life, make the best of it. You have food, water, shelter, and clothing which a lot of people don't have. Look at the families in Africa, you're lucky to have what you have. A lot of places in the world don't even have medical centers. I was born with a chemical imbalance in my brain called bipolar disorder. I will be depressed for the rest of my life because my disorder makes it so. I make the best of my life, think of what you are blessed with vs. what others are deprived of. You're living which is a luxury a lot of people haven't had. You were born for a reason. You have access to education when a lot of people don't. You have access to medicine when you get sick. Why would you be born if you didn't have a purpose? Please hear me out on this.
Life is like a book. It has a start, and an end. But that wonderful feeling when you finish a good book? That's what life is all about. We are all born, and we all die, some people die earlier than others. But we are put here to live. To make the best out of life. To do the impossible! Just look at us as humans. We went to the moon, we learned to fly, we learned to swim, we made cellphones that changed life forever! We created this wonderful thing called the internet! Every single day, us humans are advancing into something beautiful. We are here to make life worth it, to be whoever we want to be! We have the legal right to become whoever we want. You get the amazing chance to shape yourself into a person that you want to be. And these days, we don't even judge! Life is creating a book, so make it a great one! And people will read it over and over again.
I've questioned that a lot as well, but I've come to terms with the fact of the inevitable. All you can do is cherish the time you have and use it to the best of your ability.