I don’t know what to think, help?

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So I’ve been dating this guy off and on for a little more than a year, it’s a long distance relationship. The reason it’s been off and on is because he’s a bit older than me and he thought he was holding me back even though I assured him he wasn’t, but we decided to give us a shot. Things were going great, he’s going to visit me in a couple weeks and we were getting very excited. Then all of a sudden he is being very distant. I tried talking to him, but he was very short with me and now he won’t talk to me at all. It went from talking every day to silence for weeks. I have no clue what happened, we were great as far as I know. I don’t know what to do or think. advice?

Category: Tags: asked September 23, 2013

4 Answers

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distance relationships are hard. They're even harder when the relationship basically starts off in the distance. Plus men tend to get tired and move on. I suggest you just let go. If the guy is really interested he will come back. if not, distance just wasn't working. he had needs. In other words, he wanted sex.
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i agree with the first person. long distance almost never works out, and you have to start from a 100% solid relationship and work really hard to make it work. if he's pushing you away, it'll be much easier on you (even if you really, care about him) to let him go now, before things get even more strained. you said he was "worried about holding you back" which, coming from the perspective of someone who's had to break up with people in the past, is a nice way of saying "i don't want to hurt your feelings, so i'm putting the responsibility on you instead of dumping you myself".
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I think he's slowly trying to give you a hint that he wants to move on. Maybe he liked the idea of talking to you but after awhile he figured that LDR isn't right for him. I've seen a lot of people use this method so it's not that hard to crack. It's okay just put him aside and meet other people!
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I'm in a long distance relationship and have been for nearly two years,we also met up a while back, before we met up I got cold feet and ignored him a bit, whether he's the same I don't know. Contradictory to what the others said, long distance relationships CAN work, but there has to be a mutual want for it. Men don't only ever want sex, it's on their mind but it isn't number one priority. I think you need to just talk to him about it, tell him you're worried. After my long distance boyfriend and I met properly we were stronger than ever. Don't give up