I don’t know what to do with myself?

I have the lowest self-esteem. Whenever I make even a small mistake, I beat myself up over it and I’d keep thinking that I’m so stupid. I also think that my friends think I’m awful or I’m stupid and that they don’t really like me and nobody cares about me.

I hate myself but I don’t know how I can change that. I know that it’s okay to make mistakes and it’s bad to think that I’m an awful person, but even if I tell myself that, nothing changes and I still hate myself. I want to stop thinking so negatively, I want to pull myself up instead of beating myself down, I try but it doesn’t work.

What do I do when I don’t know what to do with myself? I don’t know how to improve myself, I don’t know what direction my life’s heading (if my life even has a direction), I don’t know how to stop being in a slump.

Please help.

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Jen

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Make a list of the things you like about yourself, and put it in a visible place. Include everything in that list, even if you don't entirely believe it. (Can I suggest one thing? You write well.)

Then, cut off your negative thinking when you start it. See if you can find a distraction when you catch yourself being negative. It might take a while to actually change the way you think, but in the end, it'll help. You might also try creating a project for yourself (like writing a story, learning coding, drawing, or tutoring someone)- anything as long as you can think about it for long periods of time. I've found that if I'm not working on something I can think about, I get down on myself just because I have nothing else to consider.

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Anybody

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I used to think negatively like you and to be completely honest, I do feel this way sometimes too! But, after I have talked to someone online anonymously, I figured out that the only thing you can do to make yourself happy is to... Be whoever you want to be and do whatever you want to do!

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j☹yce

Don't beat yourself up for not knowing all the answers, you don't always have to know who you are , You don't have to have the big picture or know where you're heading, sometimes it's enough just to know what you're going to do next.

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icychoco

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