I’m 15 and was held back in kindergarten, so I’m a freshman in highschool. The guy I was talking to just turned 17 and is a junior. I’ll turn 16 before he turns 18 so we’re about a year & a half apart age wise. His mother feels I’m too young, assuming because all she knows is that I’m a freshman. He’s really big on family and probably took her opinion seriously. We used to go on dates and hangout, and text all day every day, and he’d try to look for me at school and he was also very respectful around me and wasn’t always trying to get in my pants like immature teenage boys usually do. He was different and he’s also known as a “player” I guess, but he told my friend that I was different to him. That I meant something to him. I believe it not only because he said it, but because he proved it with his actions. We were talking and going on dates and hanging out for about two or three weeks and then as soon as his mother tells him her opinion, we stop talking. I haven’t heard or seen him talking to any other girl, but we don’t text anymore or talk at all as a matter of fact. This breaks my heart because I’ve never even met his mother, I didn’t get to show her how mature I am and how I’m not as young as she thinks I am. But she never gave me the opportunity to prove myself. I asked him about how he felt about my age and he said it didn’t bother him because I was so mature and that in highschool it didn’t really matter, which I agree with, it really doesn’t. When people get married sometimes they’re ten years apart, it doesn’t matter then so it shouldn’t matter now. Grades are only your academic level. You could be like 16 and a freshman too. Age and grades don’t have much to do with each other. But anyway, I texted him the other day and he never answered. So I waited a few days and tried to talk to him again by simply saying “Hey(:” and again, he didn’t answer. So I just stopped trying. I haven’t made an effort to talk to him since and I know I shouldn’t worry about dumb boy problems like this but I am a teenage girl and it’s all I think about. I tend to overthink a lot & I know it’s over between us. I just know. My question is why wouldn’t he explain this all to me? Why did he wait until my friend told me about how she asked about me and he told her the whole story. I don’t get it. I really liked him, he made me happy. I feel like I did something wrong although I don’t see where I went wrong? I don’t know what I should do. Talking to him again would just make it all worse I feel but I also am kept up all night long with my endless thoughts and memories about him. I really hate it. The fact I can’t get him out of my head, and the pain I feel in my heart when I think about the situation. Please, if you have any advice for me, I’d really like to read it. (:
