Hello ! Firstly, I want to say that this is a lgbt friendly question ! I am a 17 years old girl , in last year of highschool and I am a lesbian. I am not open about my sexuality just to my close friends. One month ago a very good friend of mine( a boy) asked me out and I told him I cannot. Because I felt he was hurt , I decided to tell him the truth because I didn’t want him to imagine that he is ugly or not good enough for me ! I told him I am a lesbian and I am dating girls and that’s why I cannot go out with him like that! I explained to him to not tell anybody because I suffer from social anxiety and I am afraid people will judge me. He got really jealous because I don’t want to be with him and started telling people I am a lesbian ! He told people he wanted to be with me , to love me but i turned him off because I am lesbian ! I found out yesterday from my best friend who heard him telling people I am a lesbian! I cannot sleep at night , he told people from my phichology course (which are mostly full grown adults) , that’s allright but if he started telling my school mates it will be terrible for me to go back to school ! I really don’t know what to do, I told him the truth because I didn’t want to hurt him by making him think he is not good enough for me, I haven’t expected this 
I called him yesterday and told him to meet tommorow to talk ! I want to tell him to stop, but I am not sure how exactly to do that ! And what about the people that already found out, I am so scared ! i didn’t want a forced coming-out !! I feel very lost and lonely because I am afraid everyone will leave me ! I don’t know how to tell him to stop , i don’t know if just telling him will stop because i told him i suffer from social anxiety and my biggest fear is people to find out but it seems that doesn’t stop him How can I tell him to stop?
