i dont know if i should be with my boyfriend or not.

Me and boyfriend have a great relationship, and a great sex life

Last year when I was single I tried to replace my bf with a friend I’ve known for years now. Well yes I know that I was really wrong, and I’m not so proud of that.

My boyfriend was able to forgive me, and we’ve been doing good here and there.

But when we argue, its really bad. Were both stubborn. And for some reason the past is always brought up.

I try to stop the argument to relax the both of us, and it turns into a big circle of bs.

Today my bf wanted to say how I cant handle situations when a guy trys to hit on me, and when I’m defending myself, saying I’m my own person I can defend myself,i don’t need you to protect me but he doesn’t like it, and he said he can’t be with someone who wants that.

And it kills me because we both want each other in our lives but, when we argue its a just a continues circle of bull, and he says I always make it about me, because I know I’m a fragile person, and it gets to the point I’m crying on the floor and can’t even move or think, and he’s just keeps throwing things in my face and saying I’m wrong, he’s right

Yet the first time when he cried in front of me, I dropped everything and tried to be there for him. But he interprets whenever I wish he would just do the same for me, that I’m always making it about me.

I’m deeply in love with him, and I know he loves me to, I told him I wouldn’t give up fighting for him, it just kills me that he doesn’t show that he worries, or doesn’t chase after me.

Some how I’m always running after him. I don’t know what to do. We have an amazing relationship, but when we argue its so bad that I even push him when he walks away from me.

Someone please help?! I don’t know what to do

Category: Dating & Relationships Tags: boyfriend asked February 22, 2014

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Erin Kristen

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Haha is it a great relationship when you are considering ending things, and the sex parts are always good. (Sorry, I tend to joke at times when giving advice. My way of trying to cheer the person up. Strange habit of mine.) Anyways that sounds like something from my previous relationship. During the beginning of it, we would argue, and the arguments would get terrible. But there were times where one of us had to submit to the other to calm things down. We were both pretty stubborn, and could be selfish. But during our good moments, we felt like we were made for each other. But over a month or two that faded away. (Though eventually different problems would arise that would eventually end the relationship) I know how you feel though, since there were times when my ex didn't chase after me like you mentioned. I felt saddened by that since it felt like she didn't want to work for me when I was down. How long has that arguing been going on now? You mentioned that you were dating for at least a year, but not how long you were arguing. If it hasn't been too long, I suggest waiting and seeing how it ends up. If it's been going on for a while, I would consider breaking up. Arguments aren't necessarily bad, but from what you describe, ending the relationship is something to consider.

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silentlaze

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With the one-sidedness of the relationship, and the way that he is being so demanding of you without being giving in return, it would be for the best to end things between the two of you. Anyone who would try to get in your face to scream at you when you're on the floor crying your eyes out clearly has no empathy for you.

That being said, never expect to be "chased" in a relationship. Chasing is not part of being in a relationship. Chasing is either a game, or they're running from a very serious personal problem. Do not chase, and do not expect to be chased.

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Humanist Hope

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