I don’t know how to deal with all this?

Well, there’s this girl I like a lot. She’s basically the girl of my dreams she’s everything I’ve searched for and she’s the only girl I’ve ever had these feelings for. Just 3 weeks back or so it took a turn for the worse and she’s been very distant and we haven’t been talking as much. We used to talk from all day morning to nighttime to a couple messages a day. I feel like this is all heading to an end and I guess I just don’t know how to deal with it. I’m starting to get my anxiety back from just thinking about all this constantly. I have tried talking to her about it but she doesn’t open up so I can’t get an official answer from her. She used to talk to me all the time about stuff like this bit now I can’t even talk to her about it, so it’s just me alone in all this. I guess I just need someone to help me, or at least talk to me..

Category: Dating & Relationships asked February 7, 2014

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JustAnotherPerson

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Hi Just,

It's clear that you're really into her and it indeed hurts when personal relationships take a 180 turn for the worst.

It might be a lot of things and maybe you can answer those for yourself, maybe not: A past, bad experience that influences her way of thinking; scared of eventual intimacy; something you did or said that seems small to you but it is big to her etc.

It's very difficult for anyone else to say why this isn't working. She has to be the one to explain to you why this isn't working or what you can do to fix this. Be prepared for the worst. Sometimes people just lose interest or decide that the other person just isn't right for them, in which case there's nothing you can do about it. Don't ever change yourself for another person if you're not comfortable with that.

The best advice anyone can give you is to confront her. Find the right time and talk to her. Don't message or whatever, do it face to face. Don't get angry with her for not understanding you, but try to respect her decision. If you feel like there's still a chance, don't give up. It took me 3 years to eventually get together with my girlfriend and i don't regret it one second.

Feel free to pm or reply if there's anything else you'd like to talk about. Good luck and have faith!

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