I cant relate to my old friends anymore.

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Hi there. I’m a third year college student.I have issues regarding my old friends. Yesterda my high school friends and I met. They were the ones I used to bond when we were still in high school and I really really love them so much.. I miss them too…We are in college now and I went to a different university… It is situated far from theirs..The environment there in my university is so different from theirs. Like people in our university are more serious and less childish. Maybe I have just adapted to my new environment in college.And then, yesterday, I felt very very bad. It seems like I don’t belong to them anymore…
I feel so out-of-place. I can’t relate to their topics… I feel fucking bad!
I got depressed really that I cried all night . I used to enjoy their company… we used to bond, but they are like strangers to me now. Every time I open a topic, it feels like they are ignoring me like they can’t relate to me anymore. So yesterday, I just wanted to kill myself for being there. I regretted why I came and met them. I felt so alone. They are all laughing and I just stared at them feeling so confused. I don’t want to lose them. They mean so much to me. But I feel so helpless being with them. I feel terrible when I’m with them. I want to be my old self again, the one who can relate to them but I don’t know how… I feel so so depressed. :( Please help me dear readers. Thanks.

Category: Tags: asked October 15, 2013

3 Answers

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This is not a bad thing, its just growing up and finding new things to be fond of weather it be what they like or dislike, if they are your friends they will still hang out with you. Me and a couple of my friends can't relate anymore but we hang out regardless and just talk about things.
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It's a sign of maturity. Embrace it. I went to college and all of my other friends from high school did absolutely nothing. They just work full time and all decided to join the military 3 years later after high school. They are my friends when I run into them but I am never invited anywhere with them, they never text or call me, they always ditch me when we make plans. It's ok. It just means we're going our separate ways. We all have to let go of things we once were fond of. Like loves, or a toy, or a sport we can't play anymore. You will always still have those memories with them, that will never change. The only thing that's constant is change and we have to embrace it. I know it's hard to reminisce and see them and want to be their friends again and you guys still can get together and just talk and hang out but right now you guys are all on different levels of maturity and stages. Maybe after college is over and you all graduate and such things may look normal for you again. Just give it time, stay in touch, try to talk to one of them every week and be proactive if you still want to remain friends. If they don't become proactive back, you may have to move on.
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Everyone in life has their path carved out for them. If they are not your friends now that's OK close that door. Most people look at the doors closing and stand in front of the closed door wondering how to open it again. They are so busy staring at the closed door that they completely fail to realize that a NEW door usually a better one is wide open. All you have to do is walk though it and explore all the new things and excitements life is handing you.