I cant imagine a girl liking me..

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im 19m and never been with a girl. It sucks cause im attracted to so many people but I cant do anything about it. On paper i seem likeable: im a more sensitive guy, would never be mean, im not argumentative, id never cheat on anyone, i go to one of the top universities, not bad looking, tall, and basically just like a nice guy i guess. But in my mind i cant imagine anyone liking me.. I think im awkward, creepy, too skinny, weird, boring, and i wouldnt be able to get out of my comfort zone so id be unfun. Also even though i said im not bad looking, i just cant imagine someone being attracted to my looks. I guess my face is nice but i look like a skinny ostrich or something. I just dont wanna be alone forever cause i know i could make someone happy and treat them better than these other guys but i still feel like theyre better than me

Category: Tags: asked December 2, 2013

12 Answers

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Oh my gosh you sound so sweet that when the right girl comes along then you will have nothing to worry about. I would love to find a guy like you. Stay true, stay kind. X
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Don't bag on yourself because of how you look, relationships shouldn't be about looks. A lot of girls look for the nice, sensitive guy and as long as they're sweet and really care for them they don't care. Sometimes it's good to step out of your comfort zone. Don't be afraid to talk to a girl because they'll think you're weird or unattractive, because that may not be the case. Plus some girls like weird. Don't worry about being unfun, because when you're with the right person, it will always be fun. Just don't be afraid to be yourself!
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I would like my daughter and my niece to find a guy like you :)
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People can usually tell if someone feels uncomfortable or has a low self-esteem. Maintain a supportive group of friends, venture outside your comfort zone little by little to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. The more confident that you become by taking small steps, the more others will gravitate toward you. It's like a self-fulfilling prophecy: if you focus too much on feeling "awkward", you'll certainly give off that vibe. If things on the inside aren't okay, things on the outside won't be, either.
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Don't worry man, everyone can be a late bloomer. I had my first kiss when I was 18, I was in the same situation as you, not ugly, just a nice guy. Don't feel judged by other people and their view. You are a great guy and the right person will come along.
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Do not change for anyone. Trust me, I know how you feel. I felt that way for a long time. One of my friends told me "stop looking for a relationship, and maybe you'll be surprised with one." I took her advice, just became friends with guys, and out of no where someone came along, and he hasn't left. The most important thing you can do is be yourself. I'm sure there are girls out their thinking the same thing, you could get along with. You don't want to try to be different just to get someone to notice you. Then they will only know you as something you're pretending to be, not who you really are. Be honest with yourself and other people and just be who you want to be. Try just being friends with girls, rather than approaching each girl as a 'candidate' for a relationship. It takes patience, but you'll find someone soon enough. Good luck!
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i know how you feel when I was in 8th grade this guy asked me out and im "bigger" than the other girls and he dumped me infront of all his friends and I was out of school for days but I have to physically say to my self " I'M BEATIFUL" and you should keep little reminders around the room on how you should feel about yourself don't drag your self down just because some girl doesn't want to date you then maybe she likes you and is too scared to ask you out just wait and the perfect girl will come along.
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My friend, ive felt the same way many of times. The right girl will come along. Maybe even the first time and she'll be perfect. Being a nice guy has its down sides though. Dont throw yourself into the relationship too early and keep a good pace. Im currently in a relationship of 7 months and im whipped hard. Now im just worried about my own feelings and making sure i wont get hurt. Good luck, i know youll find her soon, dude
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stop thinking so much and act. if you're just looking for a date it's a numbers game. If you're looking for something meaningful, put yourself out there you may be surprised at the outcome. But the only thing you know for certain that there will be no outcome unless you try. Oh and fyi, we ALWAYS have a different portrayal of ourselves compared to others. while you're beating your self up, someone is looking at you thinking "I wish he would just come talk to me already :/" Love yourself first, and the rest will come easy (more or less) good luck mate
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Even though I'm younger than you I totally know the feel.Kiss virgin and up until a month ago I've never been in a proper relationship (Technically still not. My gf is long distance and we've never met). Sensitive and shy guys can have it hard. All these girls claim that they want one but it seems like we never get picked. I never had a good chance to get a girlfriend because my anorexia got in the way of me opening up to anyone. For three years I never made an advance on a girl because I was too shy. It seems like things are hard and they'll never change, but you'll find a nice girl, I'm sure of it :) You and me sound a lot alike. I'm also different than most guys. I hear about guys cheating on their girlfriends and stuff like that and it makes me sick to my stomach. If I had a girl close by that I knew liked me back, I'd hold her, never let her go, and never let anyone hurt her.You sound like a good dude and you'll get the girl you deserve soon :)
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I don't think you not being in a relationship has shit to do with your looks. Nice guys are usually shy about getting into a relationship and take it slow. I am 19 too and only in my first real relationship but I'm a girl. Anyways before this relationship there were so many times I just wished a nice guy I liked said something to me. So don't feel like people don't wanna be with you. Nice guys are usually so shy it's hard for me to tell who they even wanna be with. On the other hand assholes who only wanna get laid make it super obvious and they are more open.
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Just don't get hooked on porn in the mean time. Or else when you finally get your shot at the real thing, your little venter won't listen to the calls of her wild thang...so ya know, resist defeat, don't beat your meat!