I am a bad person?

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I feel that I have qualities that would inhibit me from loving myself and therefore restrict love from others too, which leads me to question why I should be alive in the first place. How do I understand/ help this?

Tags: asked February 3, 2014

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Why you should be alive is your responsibility to figure out. You're the only one who can live your life, so you should live it to be whoever you want to be. What you put forth is what will eventually come back around, so the effort you need to be a loving person or whatever type of person you would respect or simply wish to be, is the effort you have to put forth.

Now you may need a friend or some inspiration to help you gain the strength to provide the effort necessary, so don't keep yourself from reaching out to others or exploring new things that can expand your ideas and perspective on life.
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Perhaps you are very introverted? I don't think being quiet or secretive is always bad. There are times, places, and people that it is right to share with or speak to. We shouldn't worry if we don't feel pressed to tell everyone everything about us. However, a close friend can be very important, I have several friends who are closer to me than the others, whom I usually talk with about selected topics. Perhaps this may help? But, don't worry about being quiet, it's a good thing not to feel the need to over-share. It's also quite possible that some of your friends may care about you more than you think. As for why you are alive, hun, I don't know if any of us know the answer to that question. As for me, I live to find out why I am alive. What is our purpose? the point of living? Some people turn to religions for their answer, some people drown the question, only to have it come back to haunt them later, I think we each must discover our own purpose for ourselves. I can tell you, however, that different people would see you in different ways. Some may think of you as bad, others may love you and care for you. I don't think you are a bad person, because I don't believe in bad people, and because you are asking this question of yourself. If you are asking, 'am I bad', questioning your actions, I think that says quite a bit about how good you are. That is my belief.
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I assume the qualities you mention are negative qualities that you don't like about yourself? I would start there. Realize that our negative qualities are simply draw backs that come with our good personality traits. They can easily turn on us if we don't heal from whatever it is we need healing from. So what is it? Maybe you are feeling bitter, sad etc. inside. Examine why you are feeling those things - where they are coming from - so you can figure it out and begin to finally love yourself. Expressing it helps. I think it's a big step that you recognize any of this to begin with. You're obviously smart enough to figure these issues out. You have to be willing to confront them though and sometimes that will be painful but it is the only way to start loving yourself and others and that will naturally cause you to desire to live again.
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Everyone has good and bad side. Rather than concentrate on the negatives, look at the good qualities about yourself. Try new things, explore and get to know yourself to find your purpose. Don't be shy to take risks as risks are the things that makes us stronger and wiser. Never take a fail as defeat but a lesson to be learnt.
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You are not a bad person, you just need to find away to learn to love yourself. You're obviously here for a reason, God must have big plan's for you. He loves you. Just pray and keep your faith and God will lead you in the right direction. He helped me. :)
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Because there is more value to life than just your capability to love and reproduce. Your ability to impact people, society and the world as a whole with what talents you have are absolutely worth something. That doesnt require love. Love helps though, and will make you happier. Find worth in yourself by doing things for other people, maybe?
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Everyone has imperfections and flaws. You can start loving yourself by loving those imperfections. You have control over your own life. If something bothers you that bad then you have the power to change it. Everyone has a purpose in life. God has a plan for you.