I am 16 and I have never kissed anyone and i dont know how to be less insecure about it.

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Basically all of my friends have had their first kiss and/or gone further. I had a boyfriend for 3 months over the summer but I was too afraid to ever kiss him. People would always be really surprised that I’ve never had a boyfriend and that I have never kissed anyone, which makes me more insecure about it. Plus, there’s a lot of guys who text me and message me wanting to hook up and I always say no. They expect that I have kissed and have gone further than kissing so that makes me more self conscious about it. I really want to kiss someone and get it over with sometimes so that i wouldn’t have to deal with people being surprised, or fearing doing truth or dare or something that will involve kissing at a little party. I just don’t really know what to do about this situation.

Category: asked January 7, 2015

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I didn't have my first kiss until I was 17 and didn't have my first boyfriend until I was almost 19, and it only lasted a little over a month. While both guys were complete jerks, but I'm glad I had the experiences. That's not to say that you need to just kiss someone and get it over with. Still let it be someone you have feelings for. It's OK if you don't kiss anyone for a while. An if people are expecting things from you, you aren't obligated to give it to them. Tell them to screw off.As for the truth or dare thing, I always had two rules when I played with my friends: I'm not not kissing anyone and I'm not taking any clothes off. I know those are pretty common dares, but I wasn't comfortable with it. If you're friends won't let you set rules for truth or dare, then they don't respect you and aren't good friends. EDIT: Also, most guys kind of like it when girls are "innocent." Being promiscuous is a huge turn-off to most guys, at least from what I've seen and heard.
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Heyy I had my first kiss when i was 18, but i understand how you feel. If you wait for the right person it'll all be worth it. If you kiss someone now just because everyone else has done it, you might regret it and the feeling of regret will stay with you for a very long time and its much worse. Don't feel like you have to justify your actions because of what people tell you to do. A kiss is a personal thing, and every kiss has a meaning, and if your first kisses meaning is to get it over and done with how would you feel after that? I hope this doesn't sound too harsh, these are just the things i thought of when i felt peer pressure and i hope they can help you to. Think of it in terms of the long run and let this be something you do for yourself :)
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Don't kiss just to get it over with. I did that and it only caused me to regret it in the future. Kissing in a relationship is something that just happens, no matter what age you are. If anything, be proud of being the age you are and not getting that far. Society these days are screwed up, I know 14 year old that have had many sexual partners and it's something I believe of completely out of hand. Sure, people will be surprised...but that shouldn't matter. You are working slow and that will only make your first kiss mean a lot more to you in the future. Keep a positive look at it and enjoy yourself, and when the time comes you know you'll be ready~
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If anything, you should be proud off yourself. Not many girls your age would be able to say they haven't had their 1st kiss, and trust me, a couple years from now, they're going to wish they had never kissed so many guys because by then they would have realised how meaningless it was. Do not rush for anyone, especially not because "everyone else" is doing it. When u meet that someone you really care about and have feelings for, it will all come naturally and It would be perfect. You can wait for as long as you want before u have your 1st kiss. It should be special so wait for that special guy and that special moment. #proudOfYou
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Hello there. 19 and never in a relationship but I'm perfectly fine with that.You desire a kiss for the sake of it. Doesn't that kinda contort the meaning behind the kiss? As everyone above me has said, reserve your kiss for now.I see people's reactions are bothering you. Just don't let it.You might want to change the way you react to people's surprise at it. Something like wiggling your eyebrows or giving them a smirk might make you feel bolder about it.edit:@jessiwins19
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Hey my best friend is 20 and just had their first kiss. Nothing is wrong with that. If anything save your first time for someone you wont regret it later on with!