How to shift life without putting family in bad situation?

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So I’m happily married. I have a baby boy and another baby on the way. I realized that my current job situation makes me miserable. So i want to make a change in my life, but i don’t want my desire to pursue a different job to make things difficult for my family. Both me and my husband are full time workers right now. We are both thinking of changing jobs and possibly moving to a different state. It’s a big decision. What if I/we don’t get hired right away? Or what if we cant find a place to live right away where would we stay? How much do i have to save? So many things are going on in my head. I dont want fear to keep me in a place that i hate being in. Any advice or steps i should go about this situation?

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From experience with younger children, you'll probably want to wait until your new baby is at least a few months old. Take the time to heal from the delivery and make sure he/she is healthy. I can't think of anything worse than a crisis with your child if you're already in a difficult position from relocating.I'd strongly suggest against moving until at least one of you has secured a job in the new city. With the economy and unemployment rate still somewhat mangled, moving and THEN looking for work is a quick route to making your life substantially harder.If you're renting a home/apartment then you'll want to research the rough cost of living in your prospective new home and probably save enough for a couple months of rent + bills. That way you'll have move in fees and deposit and so forth taken care of, plus a buffer that can help sustain you while whichever partner didn't already have one finds a job.If it's close enough, or you can afford the trip, you might also want to make a weekend trip out to the spot you want to move to. Get a feel for whether it's really a place you want to live and take the chance to see what the prospective homes and the surrounding areas are really like. I've never in my life seen an apartment ad photo that looked remotely like the actual location.You didn't mention this specifically, but since a friend just did this: you may also want to consider how much of your desire to move is due to being unhappy and trying to physically get away from the problem.
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I appreciate your answer. Well it's mainly job related. Actually, both me and my husband are in the military. Our end of enlistment ends near spring of next year. Although the miltary gave us many benefits me and my husband just don't see it the same way as we did when we first joined. I like the area we are in but i dont love it. Me my husband want to be closer to mountains. Right now we are in mississippi. The time frame im looking at is around spring next year. Do you think that it might be cheaper to get an apartment first? or just get a house? It's probably more stressful to get a house, but getting an apartment then going to a house will cost more money down wont it? We were thinking moving to colorado. maybe oregon.
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The only advice that I have is to follow where your heart leads. Home is always where the heart is.