How to play the game of love?

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Hello everyone!

So i will tell you every detail about this situation. Recently in my “college life”, I met a guy in my class we spoke for a bit. Then over the week i had text-ed him asking about the classwork because i needed help. Then we started talking and getting to know each other that whole weekend texting. Then Monday came and he came to class, but that whole day before class that night he did not text me back lol. I know why too, because we do not want seem clingy and want to keep things interesting i guess. So anyways he comes to class and when he gets tot he door he looks straight at me, and my eyes lit up lol. He went to his seat which was two rows behind me, i waited until he got situated and then i turned around smiled and said hi to him. Then later on through out class that night, he came up to me and asked me did i still need a ride home, i told him yes, and he went to his seat. Then through out class i kept glancing over at him, and he would do the same to me, it was pretty cute actually. Then i turned around and looked at him and he was already looking at me, so i quickly looked away. I could not talk much to him because the professor was talking. But towards the end of class, he came over and sat next to me. I was extremely happy to have him sit next to me, then i couldnt focused too much, even though he was trying to help me, which was really sweet of him. Then when we started talking he would look very passionate into my eyes the same i would do him. I was actually a bit nervous around him, and he was so calm,warm, and comfortable to be around. Then i got up to go to the teacher, and she lookeed up at me and then over at him sitting down, then she said to me “no your going to stay here until it is fixed” lol. which i wanted to do that, it was just funny to me that she said and did all that. Anyways when i was finish i got up, and he wasn’t around int the room, i thought he had left me! As i opend the door, he was on the bench waiting for me, and looked up at me very adoring like and romantic. Then we were walking side by side going the steps and talking a lot. We have so much to talk about, and we were walking really slow, he would listen in closely to evrything i had to say, and he would respond with very meaningful responses. THen we got to his car, and the ride home to my house was really short, but when we got to my house he pulled up and we talked for a little bit more, then it was quiet lol. And he looks at me again like i could just melt away in his eyes, he was very concerning about me and said if i ever need a ride it’s no problem. I did not want to get out the car to save me life lol. But when i did i thanked him for the ride and smiled at him. I got to my doorstep trying to unlock the door, and he pulls off. Then he turns back around, and drives pass me again making sure i got in the house. So a few minutes later i texted hima sking if he got in the house yet, and he said yes, and i said good, he sent me a smiley face, and i said “”:) lol” then he asked me what was i doing. i told him, then we started talking again and somehow i fell asleep , and didnt respond to his text until later. and he got ita round 2am this morning. i havent heard from him all day. I really miss talking to him, but im not going to sell myself to him with all my attention lol that keeps things interesting. So i will either wat until he textes me, or when i see him next week to talk to him. SO im wondering if i should let him take me home every night after class? Because right not we dont have to much time with each other, and im not expecting a date anytime soon. Or should i not let him take me home every night? I really do like him a lot, he’s perfect to me he is. I do not want to rush anything at all. Do i let him take me home again next week, and for the rest of the semester? And how do i play this game right, so h does not loose interest in me or put me in the friend zone? He’s older than me , andim 19 he’s 24, i do not date guys younger than me or my age, just one of my personal preferences. He’s actually about something in life, and is not a player, he had his heart broke a few years ago, his ex wife cheated on him while he was away in the military. And im thinking who would cheat on a guy like him? Very attractive, hard working, smart, nice,…! Please respond with all the advice you can on how i should play the game the right way, and how to get him to ask me to be his gf, and how to not put me in the friend zone.

Thanks in advance :)

Category: Tags: asked October 29, 2013

2 Answers

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I adored your story very cute :)Anyways...he 24 years old, he's even been married. I am sure he doesn't have time for games, so don't worry about that type of stuff with him. He seems very interested in you, so keep allowing him to give you rides as long as he's offering, and use that time to get closer to him. If you don't want to make the first move then fine, but as for the let him text you first, and not talking to him until next week stuff, its honestly a waste of time. Good luck girly...PS...you were wondering why his wife cheated on him, although it is not an excuse, she most likely did it while he was deployed or something. Being a military wife isn't easy. Your husband tends to leave randomly for long periods of time, and it can take a HUGE toll on the wife at times. I am not sure if he is still in the military or not, but be mindful of that as well. It is NOT easy being in a relationship with a military man, trust me!
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I would suggest just being honest, when you feel like he has done something wonderful for you, just drop a small appreciative comment. i.e. "You're a really great listener, and I appreciate how you take the time to consider what I have to say." or "Thank you for waiting to make sure I get in safe." Without being pushy you are letting him know that you value his company, and if he's unsure about making any moves it'll give him a little confidence boost to do so.If he doesn't mind giving you a ride, and you like the quality time together, it's a good time to get to know each other. So as long as you are both comfortable with it, there's no sense missing out on something you want for the sake of playing games.