How to not talk about yourself so much?

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I have trouble showing emotion and when I talk to people I find myself talking about myself a lot. I never know how to respond to people’s story’s, because I don’t want to offend anyone with my opinion or reaction. Like, I never know what to say because my answer might not be good enough. It’s like I don’t get it, I don’t get what to say. I never get to talk about my problems, and I want to just talk, and get things off my chest, but I don’t want to be one of those arrogant people. I

Category: Tags: asked March 28, 2014

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I think the reason why alot of people talk about themselves is because who knows YOU better than anyone? I can sit here and write ten books about myself, because i live with me everyday. And it's a beautiful thing if you like sharing your life with people, this is why we have 'listeners' right? Of course it wouldnt hurt to be a listener once in a while, or try to bring up subjects you are quite educated on and then let the conversation flow. You will be quite surprised at how many similar interests you share with unexpected people! if you feel as if you need to talk about your issues, confide in a trusted friend or sibling or a parent. If you can't then we're all here for you! :) I hope you work things our girl!
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There is nothing wrong with talking about your problems and feelings Laina, I personally find myself talking a little too much :P But when it comes to talking to other people and listening to them, I believe it just comes naturally. Let your reactions stay true, and respond how you feel. You can't be wrong for showing your true self. With time and a few good talks with someone, you will find you are able to empathise with others a lot more. A good way to do this would to be a listener in the chat here. That can be a good experience for both you and the person who is venting. And it's free! If you want to talk to someone who has been in your position before, private message me @aceavenger.
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All of this advice, and people are just missing the point.

You need to read up on conversational etiquette. Here are a few links:

https://www.mint.com/blog/how-to/conversation-etiquette-06042010/

You'll like this one:
http://mobile.reuters.com/article/idUSBRE99R0DO20131028?irpc=932

Do not let the title turn you off to this one, this is indispensable advice without regard to gender:
http://www.artofmanliness.com/2010/09/24/the-art-of-conversation/

If you have any further questions, my inbox is always open. :)
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Just try to treat the person the same way you would like to be treated.