My boyfriend has such a low opinion of himself that stems from past abuse. I completely understand why he is this way, and I support him 100%. To me, he’s wonderful in every way, but he only sees himself as a useless stoner with an awful past and an unclear future. It just breaks my heart.
And not only is it putting a small strain on our relationship (I say small because it’s not going to tear us apart or anything, it’s just difficult for both of us), but it’s also putting a strain on the relationship between me and my parents. My parents are dying to meet him, and they only want to meet him to say hi and begin to invite him in as a person in my life, but my boyfriend won’t meet them yet. He is completely fine with meeting them, he just doesn’t want them meeting him because he doesn’t feel like he is worthy enough or that he is someone to “show off” because of this awful opinion of himself.
I just want him to see that I accept him just the way he is, and nothing that he has said or done has made me think less of him in any way. I don’t think that me just saying these things will change how he feels about himself because that’s within him. But I want to know how I can make him see that I care and that I don’t think that he is any of the things that he thinks he is. I want to help him, but I’m lost.