Let me Start with saying That I’m A.D.D and that I’m currently engaged to be married with a Man That is Manic Depressive Bipolar.
My other half and I have been engaged for almost a year, and let me tell you. Its been one hell of a ride. we’ve been very happy together, but theres been some days where my fiancée has been… extremely in the dumps, due to his lack of medication. hes been out of work for almost 7 months now, and a lot of people ask me ,”why are you still with him?” well im sorry, you don’t give up on the person you love. I guess my question is, how do I deal with him when he’s having his bad days? I feel like if I leave him alone, im not actually helping him. but if I smother him i’m annoying him… its hard because my A.D.D there is seriously no middle ground. I love him so much, and I want to make this work… but I’m sick of feeling like the bad guy.
Oh Boy I feel for you. And I don't have the answers unfortunately. My son is 24 and bipolar. I have often wondered if he would be able to handle a wife, kids etc. Or should I say if they could handle him. Its incedibly tough. Patience, tolerance, understanding, but also tough love. Unconditional love is the only way it will work. Bipolar will last his lifetime. Get ready for this rollercoaster for the rest of your life. You may not have even seen the lowest of the lows. Take care
The truth is no person can make another person happy. What you can do is help your partner find happiness. Being around him on his bad days, can make him feel uncomfortable. But don't run away. Instead, put your arms around him for a hug and don't let go quickly. Make him feel you're always there for him no matter what. Encourage him also to talk about his problem. Don't mind what other people say. Just do what you really want to do. If what you want is to save your relationship with him, then do it. Nothing's wrong with that.