How to have the guts and self esteem to leave a relationship?

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I’ve been wanting to leave this relationship Im in, but my natural instinct is to always fight for it. He always tries to break up with me, saying these are the two unhappiest years of his life, saying how unhappy he is, that he hates being with me. He says Im never happy, I complain about everything, and he called me a sniveling little bitch, which was when he began wanting to break up with me, my natural instinct was to fight for the relationship, then I realized how unhappy he was and agreed to leave, then suddenly he cooperates and talks it out about solutions with me. We end up together, but he always leaves whenever he wants, when something doesnt go right. I want to have the guts and self esteem to leave, cause I dont want to make him miserable, and he says life wouldnt make sense without me, even I do make him miserable at times. I just..want to leave deep deep down, no matter how hard my heart is telling me to fight for it. I want to know how to build up self esteem and confidence.

Category: asked January 13, 2014

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Don't let your feelings build up. You need to say it. Say this "John I was thinking about what you have said to me in the past and how your acting and I just don't think I wan't to be in this relationship anymore." Say your true feelings and don't hold back. HOWEVER, try not to be mean. Don't diss him and call him names. Leave on a solid note :) You can do it <3
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If you want a committed relationship, from what it sounds, he isn't the best choice. You should try to date someone who will be more accepting to you. If he keeps breaking up with you, then he isn't happy, and the break ups don't make you happy either :(Keep this in mind.If you really want to get over him, then get him out of your life. Try finding a new hobby or class you can meet new people in. Get rid of anything that reminds you of him, or just associate objects with something other than him :)