So, all my parents want is for me to “Talk to us, don’t lie. Just tell us what you’re doing on the computer. You shouldn’t have to hide anything from us. Just tell us what’s going on, you won’t get in trouble, we’ll understand.”
Yeah, right.
Because every time I do do these things, actually talk to my parents like we’re a family- they do the opposite of understand and then they make it about them.
“I don’t understand why you’re so stress honey. I feel like a horrible parent because I can’t help you. (um, try just listening. That helps.) I hate it when you make me feel like the bad guy, it makes me want to cry every morning. (makes me want to cry too.) You know, when I was your age I was lucky to get through the day without being beat. You have wonderful parents who love you.”
Gee, thanks, that really makes me feel better.
So I tell my mom that I am pansexual and that I have romantic feelings for my best friend. My mom says “You don’t know what you’re talking about, she’s just a good friend and you wouldn’t know the difference.”
You say you feel bad cause you think you can’t help me?! All I want is some support here! BELIEVE IN ME LIKE YOU SAY YOU DO!
I tell them that the thought of suicide crossed my mind a few months ago.
They make it about them again. And then I feel like I just kicked a puppy.
All I want is their support, and they say I have it, but then they act in such a way that makes me think I can’t tell them anything without them being condescending of me. And then they get after me for NOT telling them things?!
What do I do?