how to get my friend to stop smoking

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My friend smokes realy badly and he wont listen to me to stop

Category: asked February 11, 2015

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Print out a picture of the lungs of a smoker versus the lungs of a non-smoker. These images are pretty easy to find on the internet.
There is also video on youtube of smokers versus non-smokers lungs. This stuff is very dramatic. After sharing this, you leave the choice to him...with gentle reminders.
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I find it usually means more to the smoker to know exactly how much it affects the people around them. I'm talking about family, friends and even pets who’ll all get a of whiff of that second hand smoke that smokers close to them will be producing. Look up statistics, tell him about all the children with lung cancer in the cancer wards across the world, tell him however much he brushes his teeth, it'll be in his hair, his clothes and settled on his skin. Keep telling him. Tell him you care about him but more than that you respect that he's the type of guy who cares about his friends and family and would do what's best for them. He's the one who has to start. You can tell him a thousand times and he won't stop but at some point he'll tell himself that you're right (he might not admit it to you but he'll be thinking it) and he'll try and stop. When he does, be supportive. Reducing the amount he smokes daily will make a huge difference. My best friend was a smoker but I would get migraines each time I met him after work and when I talked to him about it he was shocked about how it affects other people. For most smokers it takes ages but he's lucky he has a friend like you. Don't give up telling him. Try not to nag him but keep on pushing him towards a better direction. It took a few years but my best friend has completely quit. Before then he cut down by making sure he didn't smoke on days he knew was going to see me. It helped me a great deal and I think he felt pretty good about that. I'm really proud of him. I tell him so when I see him. I half joke to him that he's saved the world a little bit. And in a way he has.Also, it helps if he doesn't hang out as much with chain smokers/smokers like himself too much. If he does, try and get him to do other things that involve a healthier respiratory system like playing sports, singing, dancing and meeting girls (that don't smoke). He’s really lucky to have a friend who’s genuinely interested in helping him quit such a damaging addiction that most people wouldn’t give a second thought to. That’s what friends are for so, good for you. :)
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No offense to 'BillsBrother', but that will not mean anything at all. I live in Canada and the logo on a cigarette pack is 1/6 of the pack, the rest of it is a warning, which usually features horrible pictures. I was a smoker of 2 packs(Packs are generally 25, instead of 20, as it is in the states) a day for 9 years and what made me stop was wanting to improve myself(I went cold turkey).Most smokers will tell you the same thing; "I stopped because I wanted to stop."The best thing you can do is try to convince him/her to switch over to e-cigarettes for the time being. That way he's only smoking nicotine and glycol. I've spoke to many smokers who have found this a good output for their nicotine addiction. But, as I said, if he doesn't want to stop, you can show him all the 'cancer propaganda' you want. Unless he makes a conscious decision that he doesn't want to smoke, he will not stop.
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How can anyone make anyone do anything unless its blackmail. It is unfortunate he/she is smoking, and that you have to 'take it it'.He/she either: Does not understand the seriousness behind it, and the fact that the consequences are irreversible.or He/she really does not have a deep awareness of self and self love.The only real solutions, I think have to correspond and relate to those two.If you have them both, then you really, just wouldn't smoke.Obviously self awareness, and self love must come first. But try not to confuse this self awareness with boastfulness and ego. Such awareness can only express the good, unselfish potential which is deeply rooted and natural, but well blocked, distracted and hidden from in the vanity of daily life. One would have to call into question their own existence, as well as everything else, and develop an intellectual understanding, which becomes intuitive, and natural. And to attain happiness through their own means, without harming or comprising things around them. Sounds very philosophically annoying, no? I know, but that is the truth.And when one knows what tobacco does to the lungs, with this strong awareness- the desire to actually stop, as opposed to just stopping takes into effect, and makes it better. Self attitude and drive is key. PulchraMors is spot on with this.To help with that on the not so good days (as you imagine, we wouldn't be feeling so oh spectacular nearly all the time), perhaps, fruit tobacco as a substitute- (it might not do because it is vapour and not smoke, which is a sensation smokers get addicted to) , or at least ones without all the other synthetic chemicals), could help out. I don't know if electric cigs works, but some people like it- others don't- it depends.Most importantly, it has to be his/her choice- a strong, meaningful one. A solid one. A real attempt. From his/her own person. It is the only way.Hope this helps a little.