How to find the real ones?

There isn't really a "look" to the girls you're talking about. When you introduce yourself to women, seeing that you're a personal trainer, don't mention that. As a self proclaimed girl of what you described, I'm personally irrationally put off by guys who have a physical profession. Try and start conversations on deeper matters, not just on face value, you know? Try and talk about books and movies or the weather or movies that you've seen. The real girls aren't hiding, they just might be intimidated.

They're the quiet, unnoticed ones. The odd ones. The weird ones. I myself, am in this group. Shy, I guess. You see 2 girls walking down the street. One is in a short pink dress, a handpurse, blonde with her hair pinned up. Sunglasses. The other you didn't seem to notice because she was dull. Skinny jeans or sweatpants. A band t-shirt or just a regular graphic designed shirt. Dark hair. Glasses that aren't big and empty framed. Its the unnoticed girls that are the kind you're looking for.

Real girls who are quite and self aware more likely less talkative, you kind find such girls at study places and office jobs, including schools, libraries or at their houses. A great place to meet people are grossery shops and clothes stores.

Libraries for sure! Oh! Joining a class that interests you or that you want to try. I think you'll meet some nice people there.

try on libraries, cooffees...

I think your perspective of the opposite sex is a little skewed, the girls you've mentioned are certainly real. Just because you don't find them to your interest, doesn't give you the right to put them down and declare them to be beneath what you're looking for. Realising that may give you a little more luck in finding people that may actually interest you.

I totally see what your saying Inspire and your 100% right looks seem to be a huge first impresser before you even start to talk. It is defenently something I have been trying to work on.Thanks Dino those are places I would never guess, I never really pay attention when I am getting groceries or when I am buying clothes just seems like a place that wouldn't have that.Okay dang Justmejillygot to say I never even thought of myself intimidating to a girl, but it does make sence I sopose if a girl is more quiet and shy coming right and saying that your profession focuses on physical can be offsetting. But what situation would allow me to start a conversation that is more deep? Should I randomly go up to a girl that i see and start up a conversation? Or is it more like you interact with them for awhile than start talking?Yes Vex you are 100% correct it is skewed but i'm afraid it all comes from personal experience and so far there has not been one that has been decent so my opinion on the matter is heavily waited on the one side for now.