How to deal with unwanted attention?

Heya!

I'm gonna send you a PM, k?

I've had the same thing happen to me before, and my solution was changing my routine. Instead of walking route A home, I took route B. Whenever I see them in my path ahead, I turn back around at a rapid speed before they can notice I'm coming. You should also never be alone if this is the case. These men can do absolutely anything they want with you, and maybe even have their way with you. Stay strong though love. The abuse won't last long. They are words, and words fade. They may not fade fast, but they don't exist forever. ♥♥♥

I suggest reading "The gift of fear".

I'm just so sad that this is a problem for you, when, truthfully, it's the problem of these men who are giving you the attention you don't want. They are the ones that need to learn and receive counseling regarding their view of women as objects. What should you do? Avoid it as much as you can. Report incidents immediately. Take steps to defend yourself. You shouldn't have to do any of these things, but sadly, it's a problem you can't control.I hope things get easier for you and I hope those men/boys learn their lesson. Don't be a passive, forgiving female. Make them understand that what they are doing is wrong and will not be tolerated. I don't mean to sound like a femi-nazi or anything but like I said-it's their problem, not yours.

Even if you did dress provocatively that shouldn't trigger attacks on you, you are entitled to dress how you want, when you want to. The problem is them, not you. I can't say I've ever dealt with any unwanted attention beyond the odd random 'car-hollerer' but it sounds like what you're getting is bordering on assault. Is it the same people doing it every time or different? I would consider alerting the police of this. Girls have been taught to brush off unwanted advances, but I believe that's so wrong and it does nothing for the advancement of women as equals to teach young girls to react in that way. Women should be confident enough to bite back and tell men no, and not to treat them or touch them this way.

I completely feel your pain! I dont know what your daily routine is so I cant really say what to change. BUT I would carry some kind of weapon AND present yourself like a badass because men like that will go after girls they think wont put up a fight. Im not just making that up, its true. But DEFINATELY the best advice is to carry some kind of weapon (pepperspray, small knife?) and DONT ever walk anywhere that may be "sketchy" alone... like a parking lot or an ally or even a neighborhood. Always ask someone to walk with you... you may sound annoying for a minute but its better to sound annoying then to get hurt!

That would be great thanks :)

Thanks Esther, I'll try your approach. Rinseandrep that looks like a really good interesting read I'll look into that, I read the synopsis online, thank you.