How to deal with ignorant friend?

So right now i have a few friends in school and our realitionship is a bit down right now( just a bit, i guess because im shy) but theres one friend witch looks really ignorant to me. One day shes good to me, the other shes ignorant. She often asks me just about grades or homework. Next year we will go to the same school cause we are good at grades. She already has her friends who will go there too. They are all extremely talkative and etc. I know ill be alone there. Like for Example, we go to the same class but yesterday the last lesson was english so our class is divided and im alone in my group. Shes in another with all other friends. After the lesson i and them walked outside and i think the ignorant friend actually saw or just knew ill be walking somewhere there. But she kept going fast and turned her head to the other side. I walked near her and just asked whats up but she just looks like didnt wanted to talk to me. Idk maybe it just how she looks to me but all class knows that im shy. It looks like she doesnt even want ti give me a chance. It looks like shes kinda fighting for another more sucessful friend. So idk if i should change my viewpoint or just leave(ignore) her. And what to do next year in new school?

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Anna

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It seems like she's just one of those girls who cares about popularity. If she doesn't come around you shouldn't really hang out with someone like that. Find someone who likes you for you and not for popularity.

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Upfield

Well I understand that it sucks to feel ignored. But I really think you should make more friends on your own. You can be an introvert but don't use shyness as an excuse to not make friends. People don't ignore you because you're shy. People will ignore you for many other things but not because you're shy. You should try making yourself more interesting so people will want to get to know you. Indulge in some extra-circulars and keep yourself occupied with things to do. And try to be a good conversationalist. Don't act shy just because you're scared you'll feel rejected. There's nothing wrong with embarrassing yourself sometimes. Just be open to yourself and your heart. And be true to yourself. Don't do something just to make friends or just so your friends will like you. Do things that make you feel happy from the inside. Anything will do! Maybe bake some cookies and hand it over to your classmates? Or join a theatre club or sports club at school! Anything that you think you can enjoy on your own.
Believe me when I say self development is more important than trying to be or do something you don't want.

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Chwati:)

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I suggest you to go and talk to her... and be more friendly... ask her if she was comfortable to talk to you and try to have a healthy interaction... just because you felt she was ignorant that doesnt mean you need to worry.. she might her her own issues.... so try to be nice as you are... and talk to her and probably she would feel good.... But then if she continues to ignore you.. then you need to find your friends ... because you have your own self respect and you cant let your self respect go down no matter how it hard the situation ......

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Nite

You can always make friends! I know you're shy, but you wont be sitting alone, right? In thhe class. There can be good people out there, people who sit beside you in the class, right?.....If she doesnt wanna be a friend, you cannt make her. Plus, it really is clear she doesnt like you :/ .... It's better to be alone than with friends like her. You shouldnt give a damn. Keep your distance. Be with people who want you, like you. If nobody does, next year , in another school, you can start anew...... If youre shy, doesnt mean you always will be.... i was shy too, but i concentrated hard on studies. now people appreciate me and want me as a friend. These things take time, but if you know your worth, then people will too.! c: GOOOD LUCK

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Miza ツ

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I have a friend who's very like that. Sometimes she can be very chatty and needy but at other times, she can completely ignore me and act completely ignorantly to my problems or feelings. It's hard to feel ignored or overlooked like that. I know it's hard, but I would try to make other friends. It could be within the same group of friends that your friend has, but why not also try meeting other people? Just stay true to yourself and do what you feel comfortable with - that's they key thing.

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Izzy